you are what you love, not what loves you

I went through something eerily similar to this. I absolutely hate the guy now. As they say, a fine line....

 

You know morgan, there is one thing, if you don't love yourself then you will not able to love others or things of the earth.

Another thing itself says, Happiness inward to outward, it will survive from inner self, So there is no need to think about others, if they are loving us or no. They are not loving us, no problem, Stay on your road. You love those things for which you have feelings in your heart and you really want it.

You will get hurt, when you go for outward to inner. You kept thinking about others, they are loving you or not. But now, you can change it, keep in to out. You will get whole world loving you. Sorry, i did not mean hurt you, just giving little support to understand it.

This is more than about unconditional love, i think.

 

Hate that guy, why? and what is the meaning of eerily??

 

Eerily is like scarily.

 

Thankx,

 

Oh, eerie is like scary. Sorry.

 

It is never too late, to learn or change anything. You have enough time to change. Don't feel sad for it, just don't repeat those mistakes which you made in past.

I hope you are understanding what i am saying.

 

You can transform your thinking. It will take time and your ability to be patient. You will make many mistakes and time will come you will start doubting on yourself.

But i want to tell you that, just hang in there. Never give up. Try to change it slowly, let it grow. Don't force yourself. When time and your preparation, you will start experiencing its effect. Yes, it is long lasting.
You will enjoy your life for everything you have.

Have faith in yourself.

 

On the flip side, as an INFJ sometimes I hurt because I see everyone stuck inside their own shell and unable to connect or care because they are too afraid to reach outside of their walls. They can't see the walls of others because of their own.

 

Disability to take any action. I can understand. It is not that easy thing to do. You have to think and then go for try to do it. Majority don't take any action, because they are focused on its result, instead of focusing on their action and thought.

 

Love it. Have said it for years, even though I probably haven't believed it for every minute of my life since.

 

That's quite a discovery indeed I've learned that myself just a few years ago (at your age) from a children's book... I think I've felt it one way or another all the time, but seeing it embraced in such a simple sentence moved me.

I can only expand that we can give our love freely to anyone we want without being loved firsthand. That's our privilege as human beings. We can make the first move and change the hearts of people. It is not fair to wait until someone loves us in order to give something back.

BTW I just love Charlie Kaufman movies. My favorite is "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind"

 

I completely get this. And it's a beautiful thing. There's a freedom that comes with it, that does not depend on whether or not they return the love. And as long as it respects their feelings as well.

 

You are you, not what you love.

 

You changed yourself, so quickly, that means you are a quick learner.

Enjoy freedom of being here amongst INFJs. I am glad for you my friend.