A vow is an oath. It's a statement of what you're swearing to give the other person. I've been to a few weddings where people have "Written their own vows", and they're invariably the persons subjective definition of what love means to them. They don't promise anything. This thread, is about writing your own vows. Actual vows. I'd write more now, but I've got to shower and then go check out rock climbing facilities. (didn't want to lose the thread idea) Write what you'd promise the other person, so, what are your vows?