Why do girls that have turned you down, expect you to sympathise?

Well thats because you've slipped back down to the friend zone, and that's exactly what a woman from brisbane would do if things were going wrong: bitch about it to a dude she gave the slight.

 

I'd say she's probably searching her black book looking for whichever man will try and sympathise with her. Maybe she hoped you were one of the everyday arrogant pricks, but when "real" situations arise; you will be like a modern day lancelot. Who knows.

 

I guess she assumes that if you've pursued her before, you must've really cared about her a person (you probably tried to appeal to her INFJness while you were pursuing her, didn't you?)

Now that she needs a friend, she's turning to the individual that once gave her the impression that they actually give a damn. I don't think it computes with her that there are people out there who've only got a fixed idea of what they want from others, and once they're blocked from achieving those ends, they discard the person and move on.

That, or maybe she's trying to get you interested again.

 

I think TDHT is on to something -- she probably assumed that, because you were actually interested in "getting to know her" better, that you might have actually had some sort of interest in her as a person beyond the romantic intentions.

 

What do you mean by 'turned down', I thought you were gay?

 

hahahaha, burn

Yes yeah, nothing wrong with being gay ofc.

Addressing the topic at hand, yes ofc she expects you to sympathise, she turned you down, not the other way around...

 

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123 i agree

 

She still might have thought of you as a friend or confidant, though. Maybe she's just desperate for someone to talk to.

 

My dad in his younger years before he met my mom had a girlfriend who broke up with him by just not talking with him. Years later, when engaged to my mom, she called him and told him that her brother was dying of a major heart attact b/c he's close with his siblings. But it's like, seriously, wtf, why are you only talking to me now when you need help? What's that all about?

 

She would be better off cutting him out of her life if he is going to be an ass.

I'm sure she will either stop trying or find someone else.

 

He could've been someone to talk to. Y'know, if she'd said yes. Now she's insulted him as a man and he will not be that person to talk to. Decisions have consequences, and she's being a bitch.

 

Yes, it is. Makes me doudt her infjness, since she seems to be so inconsiderate of your position and feelings. Make her suffer.

 

Do you know what she wants to talk to you about?

When I say desperate, I mean that there might be something going on that you might not be considering. I always assume the worst with stuff like that -- I've talked to too many people who have had problems with attempted suicide, rape, domestic issues, etc.

And the idea that she has to suffer because she turned you down is very immature. She had a right to say no. Even if it was for someone else, even someone unworthy -- I mean, if the feelings weren't there, then they weren't. I'm not saying you have to like it or be nice to her, but a vengeful take on it shows a lack of understanding of the true base of the emotion -- if you're feeling betrayed or let down or like you've had a blow to your manhood, own up to that. Don't create a wall of hate to save yourself from it.

It's understandable that you wouldn't want to talk to her or anything. But the anger is a bit unnecessary :/

 

Regardless, she still didn't seem to care about Shai's position in all of this. I mean, someone exposes his feelings, you turn him down and then you turn to him again when things don't go well although you know his desires and intentions? I don't know.

Gloomy's right, but you should make her suffer anyway. Obliterate her.