Many of us often feel misunderstood in some way. What do people misunderstand about you and why does it matter.
Many of us often feel misunderstood in some way. What do people misunderstand about you and why does it matter.
People quite often misunderstand why I'm distant and want to be alone sometimes. On top of that, my family have never, and probably will never understand all the pain that I carry around with me.
I guess it's important because although there's sometimes a small feeling of satisfaction (for want of another word) when you look around and realise that you are different to most people, I'd also like to be accepted at some point in my life and not have to explain myself all the time or apologise for acting the way that I do. I respect that other people can have radically different lifestyles to mine, so when I'm not hurting anyone else, why should mine be such a problem? This has always been an issue in relationships, annoyingly
Also, to Kgal, I'm sorry for your loss and hope that your family all find peace in time. I'm no expert by any means, but grief is an incredibly hard thing for some people to deal with, although they should understand that you being different doesn't mean any less depth of feeling or connection.
(Oh, and beautiful picture by the way on your avatar thingy)
Thanks Bollington. [MENTION=1939]Stu[/MENTION] found the avatar pic for me and I agree it is beautiful in an earthy organic way.
You are quite right in thinking Grief is incredibly hard for people to process in a healthy way. My family's culture is famous for pretending all pain should be ignored and stuffed away in a box. I found myself locked and stuck for a long long time until I finally learned the value of grieving and allowing my emotions to unfold.
You know how it is...though...most people see others through their own filters of understanding and when a person doesn't match their ideas of what's right....well...then...you are suspect. Family is no different - even while they express they love you....they don't understand.
And yes....If you respect their views...why is it they cannot respect yours.
I find it intriguing you mention all the pain you carry around with you. I have also had this experience my entire life....and there is no one root cause such as trauma or abuse. I've made comments to others before such as:
"Can't you feel the World is crying?" ....and I get met with blank stares.
I long to find someone else on this planet that can walk beside me and nod their head "Yes" when I make statements such as that.
Being misunderstood creates loneliness.
Thank you for your compassionate empathy.
If anything, family are sometimes the worst offenders, because they're the ones that growing up you think will understand most and be there for you when everything gets difficult... so the betrayal feels all the worse when it comes from your own core group of people.
To FamineGT (incidentally, how do you do that @ linking thing
@FamineGT
umm i think that in a relationship its important for me to know that she understands me.
I've never felt quite good with my past relationships because of this, they just dont understand my feelings nor why i am the way i am.
I just reserve a big part of me but in the end it makes me feel bad because i dont feel they like or appreciate the real me, only the nice thing i do for them