In what circumstances would you say a parent is justified in hitting their child? To what extent can a child be physically disciplined? Spanking? Belting? Slapping? Striking? How hard is a parent justified in striking their child?
In what circumstances would you say a parent is justified in hitting their child? To what extent can a child be physically disciplined? Spanking? Belting? Slapping? Striking? How hard is a parent justified in striking their child?
In what circumstances would you say a parent is justified in hitting their child? To what extent can a child be physically disciplined? Spanking? Belting? Slapping? Striking? How hard is a parent justified in striking their child?
depends on context. physical violence should probably only be used as a last resort, but that's not to say it's never appropriate - who knows, maybe in one particular situation you couldn't get through to the kid in any other way, and the means really did justify the end. for example if a toddler continually sticks his finger in an electrical socket, maybe smacking him lightly on the hand (obviously not hard, but enough to cause him to associate the socket with being hit) would be enough to prevent a greater injury. not disciplining a child might result in a much bigger problem later on, though instinctively i feel there should be better ways than simply hitting them. kids grow up, they remember that stuff - it'll leave psychological scars if it's used to often or if it's very severe, which creates a whole new set of issues.
This^^^^. Not disciplining a child at all or enough has it's own serious consequences later on in adulthood.
Falling upon violence just means that your children don't respect you enough to listen to your words.
Thanks to spankings I now cringe whenever I'm within a few feet of my father, and seriously weary when we are in the same room. Hes perfectly nice and pleasant at all times, but the fear and effect of childhood punishing never goes away. It didn't improve my character as a person any either. Just made me into a ninja about everything.It was normal to receive corporal punishment growing up. Let me say, much of it was over the top and seriously abusive when i think back on it, but at the same time, some of it taught me self control and self discipline. I won't argue that it is good or acceptable if it is used too often or rigidly. But I don't support the idea that corporal punishment is absolutely wrong or bad.
Thanks to spankings I now cringe whenever I'm within a few feet of my father, and seriously weary when we are in the same room. Hes perfectly nice and pleasant at all times, but the fear and effect of childhood punishing never goes away. It didn't improve my character as a person any either. Just made me into a ninja about everything.
I kind of like to stay out of the moral issues of whether corporal punishment (not abuse) is acceptable, i would rather ask, is it even effective?
And the answer is no. When you hit your kid, it has to be almost as they are doing the deed that warrants them getting punished. Otherwise they associate it with the person doing it, instilling fear instead of moral guidelines.
I kind of like to stay out of the moral issues of whether corporal punishment (not abuse) is acceptable, i would rather ask, is it even effective?
And the answer is no. When you hit your kid, it has to be almost as they are doing the deed that warrants them getting punished. Otherwise they associate it with the person doing it, instilling fear instead of moral guidelines.
DoveAlexa said:It would help a lot if taking classes for parenting was normal anyways. Raising a kid isn't an innate skill. Also, a child use to be raised by a community, and now we stick a family in a box and tell them to figure it all out for themselves.