What do you do when a loved one, or someone you know, has made a terrible mistake? When you know something they don't, and it would break their heart to hear it?
Mainly, what I'm talking about here is that familiar situation we're all faced with at least once in life. When one of your gal pals or best buddies starts dating a girl, and then you find out the girl is cheating on him. When someone marries a woman who's a gold digger and you uncover a trail of men she's robbed and divorced, her name changed to cover it all up.
It seems that 'love' is a binding force that can cause people to become blind to all negativity. They don't want to hear anything that is bad about their lover, and if they do hear something they are the first to claim someone is lying to make them break up so they won't be happy. But, some people, in fact most people, are in love with the concept of love so much that they are willing to ignore all signs of trouble and dive into something head on.
I've been told, it's better not to say anything. If you know something that may be detrimental to someone's relationship, to let them discover it on their own. Because think of the complications of telling yo friend that you know for a fact her boyfriend is sleeping around with other women- because he tried to sleep with you. The first thing people tend to do for some reason is avoid the idea, deny it, and then try to prove you wrong.
Is it because they know it's true themselves, that they pick up on the clues but just don't want to believe it?
What about the people who are forever in the dark about their partner's dark secrets, not doing a thing to get them out of harms way?
This can happen to just about any relationship; friends, family as well as lovers.
But I want to focus on lovers for right now. Hopefully you know the concept I am speaking of. If not I suppose I can try to explain it better.
So here are some questions:
1. If you found out some information like the above stated that would put a friend's relationship in jeopardy, but it was something important for them to know, what would you do? If this has happened to you, what did you do, and what did you gain from that experience?
2.Why do people try to cover their ears and not listen when something negative is brought up about their partner that has substantial, even undeniable evidence to back it up. What is it about romantic love that keep people from wanting to face the truth on matters?
3. Should a person interfere with another person's relationship? For example, the kid who was molested by his mother's boyfriend, who tells his mother and his mother doesn't believe him- is it really worth the effort to tell someone and then have they just blatantly dismiss it like that?
I can't think of anymore questions but I think it's a good topic, yeh?
Also, I don't know what happened to the tags in this thread.
Mainly, what I'm talking about here is that familiar situation we're all faced with at least once in life. When one of your gal pals or best buddies starts dating a girl, and then you find out the girl is cheating on him. When someone marries a woman who's a gold digger and you uncover a trail of men she's robbed and divorced, her name changed to cover it all up.
It seems that 'love' is a binding force that can cause people to become blind to all negativity. They don't want to hear anything that is bad about their lover, and if they do hear something they are the first to claim someone is lying to make them break up so they won't be happy. But, some people, in fact most people, are in love with the concept of love so much that they are willing to ignore all signs of trouble and dive into something head on.
I've been told, it's better not to say anything. If you know something that may be detrimental to someone's relationship, to let them discover it on their own. Because think of the complications of telling yo friend that you know for a fact her boyfriend is sleeping around with other women- because he tried to sleep with you. The first thing people tend to do for some reason is avoid the idea, deny it, and then try to prove you wrong.
Is it because they know it's true themselves, that they pick up on the clues but just don't want to believe it?
What about the people who are forever in the dark about their partner's dark secrets, not doing a thing to get them out of harms way?
This can happen to just about any relationship; friends, family as well as lovers.
But I want to focus on lovers for right now. Hopefully you know the concept I am speaking of. If not I suppose I can try to explain it better.
So here are some questions:
1. If you found out some information like the above stated that would put a friend's relationship in jeopardy, but it was something important for them to know, what would you do? If this has happened to you, what did you do, and what did you gain from that experience?
2.Why do people try to cover their ears and not listen when something negative is brought up about their partner that has substantial, even undeniable evidence to back it up. What is it about romantic love that keep people from wanting to face the truth on matters?
3. Should a person interfere with another person's relationship? For example, the kid who was molested by his mother's boyfriend, who tells his mother and his mother doesn't believe him- is it really worth the effort to tell someone and then have they just blatantly dismiss it like that?
I can't think of anymore questions but I think it's a good topic, yeh?
Also, I don't know what happened to the tags in this thread.