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What should you look for in a partner?

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Hello, I would just like to canvass some opinions from the crowd on what you think are necessary traits to look for in a partner with the view of entering into a long-lasting marriage.

Someone whom I know very well told me that "kindness" is an important attribute. She suggests that you can tell kindness from how a person interacts with her lessers, and other service staff like waiters.

The older, more experienced folk in the forum have opinions that double in weight, so I hope you will share with us your words of wisdom!
 
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Much has been written on this topic, but I believe that I have proper guidance on this matter.
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Someone who makes you laugh - laughs with you and at themselves.

Someone who is vulnerable with you - open and honest - especially about themselves.

Someone who shares similar values with you. They understand your cultural beliefs.

Someone who respects you.

Someone who gives you space.

Someone who encourages and/or challenges you to be the best you can be...Supportive.... Not belittling.
 
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A good partner will appreciate a good partner. So, be a great partner, and give that to someone who will be a great partner in return.
 
Good posture.
Doesnt eat much.
great table manners
good taste in shoes
attractive face
good hygene
rich parents
masters degree or higher
most important: interesting stories.
 
Sensiko said:
honesty and integrity
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^ pretty much this....


I know that I personally love a man that can take responsibility for his actions, have the humility to admit when he's wrong, and can show gratitude as well.
 
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A good husband will rub my back without me asking. He will check the washer/dryer to see if any laundry needs to be taken care of. He will love my cooking and help me clean up afterwards and eat any leftovers on my plate. He will laugh at my cynical humor. He will listen as much as he talks. And he will have a big wang.

He will be truthful and if I suspect him of anything, he will be understanding that it is a part of me and will be honest.
 
what i looked for?
it had to be someone that made me laugh. it had to be a person who gave of himself without keeping score. generous, sensitive, kind.
oh yeah. and he had to be very manly. preferably a big burly guy. jgirl likes to feel safe and protected. :)
 
What I look for:

Vivacity
High Intellect
Verboseness
Articulate
Extroverted
Correct spelling and grammar when applicable
Vanity
Cerebral temperament
Not easily vexed
Does not spend the whole day pondering on superfluous wanderings
Devotion
Abstract thinking
Liberal minded
Feminist
Obstinate
Stubborn
Cultured

My partner; a man that could be easily described as 'a capital fellow of good society'.

In other words I like my men to be progressive middle class snobs ^_^
 
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Humor
Integrity
Drive
Passion for their own goals
Honesty (this is keyfor trust)
Thirst for knowledge
Desire for adventure (i get bored quickly doing the same things all the time)
Challenges me intellectually and growth-wise without being condemning.
Respect
 
Kgal said:
Someone who makes you laugh - laughs with you and at themselves.

Someone who is vulnerable with you - open and honest - especially about themselves.

Someone who shares similar values with you. They understand your cultural beliefs.

Someone who respects you.

Someone who gives you space.

Someone who encourages and/or challenges you to be the best you can be...Supportive.... Not belittling.
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+1
 
Hemoglobin said:
What I look for:

Vivacity
High Intellect
Verboseness
Articulate
Extroverted
Correct spelling and grammar when applicable
Vanity
Cerebral temperament
Not easily vexed
Does not spend the whole day pondering on superfluous wanderings
Devotion
Abstract thinking
Liberal minded
Feminist
Obstinate
Stubborn
Cultured

My partner; a man that could be easily described as 'a capital fellow of good society'.

In other words I like my men to be progressive middle class snobs ^_^
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Nothing kills the ol' frontal lobe when a guy misspells a word.

PS: You forgot big penis :p

(This is my 500th post and it includes penis.... yay!)
 
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bionic said:
Nothing kills the ol' frontal lobe when a guy misspells a word.

PS: You forgot big penis :p

(This is my 500th post and it includes penis.... yay!)
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Oh honey, I didn't expect a wall of flesh under those mutton chops....

The universe is full of surprises.
 
Hemoglobin said:
Oh honey, I didn't expect a wall of flesh under those mutton chops....

The universe is full of surprises.
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The universe can suck my cosmic dick. >:|
 
Kind, compassionate, honest, generous, hard working, truthful, gentle tongue, man of integrity, faithful, reliable, can forgive, willing to admit when he's wrong, humble, peaceful, control of his temper, does not live in excess, positive.
 
bionic said:
Nothing kills the ol' frontal lobe when a guy misspells a word.

PS: You forgot big penis :p

(This is my 500th post and it includes penis.... yay!)
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More impressive if it was 500th post in a row that includes 'penis'. Work on it.
 
loyal, honest, caring, loving, ambitious, understanding, not quick to judge, open minded, attractive, optimistic
 
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