My husband is a suspected INTJ (I can't get him to take the test, but he fits the description to a tee), and I find him incredibly sexy but incredibly frustrating at the same time, rather often. His mind is amazing and I love listening to him talk about things he has a passion for, but it's quite frustrating for me sometimes that he can come off as insensitive toward me, especially in regards to criticisms and dealing with emotions (which as an INFJ I have plenty of!). He doesn't understand that when I am criticized I can't help but cry, nor does he really get that such criticisms (always meant in a loving and positive way, of course) are already things I think about all the time already but have a hard time expressing. It's like I think to myself "I know already; I don't need you to tell me about my faults, however helpful you feel like you're being".
Other than that sense of me being all feeling and him being all thinking, we're otherwise perfectly in accord in all ways. Our social mores, values, and standards are all alike, just he goes at things logically and I go about things emotionally, which I think is actually a nice comliment because we both fill out the gaps in each other's personality traits. The more I'm coming to know the INTJ type, the more comfortable I'm getting with the idea that he is what he is, and I'm what *I* am, and that's okay. I hope that one day he will kind of end up thinking the same, because I often feel that he's trying to make me be *him*, all thinking and logic, all the time, and I just can't be that way. Not that he doesn't love me or he wants me to change...he just really doesn't get it. I also don't think that he understands that this is not a "woman thing", but a type thing. But he doesn't believe in typing, so I'm at a complete loss there!