What is a normal amount of jealousy or control in a relationship?

You should be able to (not) talk to whoever you want.

 

My objective answer is this: There is no such thing as normal. There is only how much you are willing to give in to and give up for the relationship.

As for me personally, trust is the most important thing, and being prohibited from having friends, even of only a certain group, is a form of mistrust. Your BF might say that he does trust you but not them, as "men are unable to be friends with women", but I consider this a load of bull. This kind of thing goes both ways.

My father systematically kept my mother from having any friends, which also kept her from developing a safety net of support when shit hit the fan. So perhaps I am overly sensitive towards this kind of thing.

 

A little control is normal. I mean, he can't have you run astray during mating season -- now, that is! "Jealousy" isn't the right word exactly.

Over a century ago, only a property-owning man could vote; a man stakes his claim and defends it. Because he claimed you, it's his responsibility to steer you away from marauders.

 

I think it's pretty normal to expect your significant other to limit contact with members of the opposite sex. After all, nobody is trying to get cucked. Shit is wild in the smartphone era.

These hoes (and bros) ain't loyal.

 

The issues I can understand. But I wouldn't let myself suffer being someone's possession. I am a free spirit, and the person I'd be with should recognise this. This has also to do with me being strictly monogamous. I'd never side-step or anything unless the relationship is considered over. And even then, timing is very important. I wouldn't know if I were able to have sex with another person until way after the previous relationship was terminated. Call me a demisexual with a harsh sense of judgement.

 

You're an adult human being, with the right to whichever friends you choose.

If he wants you to limit your (platonic) contact with other men, that is his issue, not yours. There is no "normal" here - it's whatever the two of you are willing to put up with. Personally, I find the imposition of such rules to be controlling and thus undesirable. My experience is that controlling behavior doesn't get "better" or less onerous over time. Your mileage may vary.

Sure. Insecurity takes many forms, and most everyone is guilty of it in one way or another.

 

I don’t think it’s healthy to tell your partner who they can and can’t be friends with. That being said everyone has the potential to feel jealous at some point in a relationship. I have a few male aqaintences that I do not socialize with in person because it would be awkward. Online I have a few male friends I message with and it’s platonic.

If you’re feeling like your bf is controlling you it will only get worse. My advice is to break things off and move on.

 

A man's greatest legacy is his offspring. Eventually, he may allow her to remove the chastity belt for an hour or so on a sweltering day. @Marshmellow0103 , remember...patience! And keep yourself fresh. No one wants a dried-up slimy marshmellow.

 

Feminazi opo:

 

Yup. Men want to spread their seed everywhere. They’re the worst!

Been there, done that. Never again. Ladies/men find yourselves a mature INTP and you’ll live happily ever after.

 

Oh yeah? Women want to get fertilized everywhere. They're the worst!

Take that.

 

The answer to the title is none. Of course.

 

So, your relationship is shaky and you went out with someone else. He feels like you cheated on him and don't trust you with other men anymore, and now you wonder where to go from here. Did I get that right?

 

Ridiculous. Partners hold one another to standards in healthy-relationships. Also, jealousy is often justified, that's a sign that we need to improve ourselves.

 

On whose part?

 

The person who is jealous. Therefore, if I'm jealous that you've got a mansion, power, and a $40,000 golden watch, that means I need to improve myself (work harder and smarter).

 

Oh no! Being held to a standard, how abusive! Not... RESPONSIBILITY!

 

Is this the only way he is controlling? Does he make you get rid male friends on social media or was his problem with you hanging out with them alone? Does he spy on you? Does he look through your phone?