Are any of you ever annoyed by the insistence of Te users to delegate others? I've found this to be my biggest source of frustration with Te users - the insistant delegating. This phenomenon is most 'painful' for me when the Te user is my 'boss', but is pretty bad when it is a loved one, because in both cases I'm predisposed to feel like I 'should' accommodate them. It took me a long time to figure out why, but I think I have. I don't have a problem with asking people to do what they 'should' do (obviously, as an Fe user). I don't have a problem with people in positions of authority asking people to do things (as that is what they should do). My problem with Te delegating comes from two directions insistence on delegating, then ignoring important details when it delegates. First of all, I place a very high value on harmony. When Fe delegates, it is highly conscious of the feelings of the person it is asking, and is concerned with maintaining harmony, proven by the fact that Fe requests rather than demands. Fe may become resentful of those who will not do what they should, but it must be pushed very far to demand that someone do something they should. Fe is also very open to the convenience of the person it is asking, as well as the inconvenience the request may be causing. Fe is very open to others doing what is asked of them however is best for them to do and at the best time for them to do it. Again, harmony is of utmost importance, followed by the 'shoulds'. In contrast, Te is compelled to delegate, and it demands when it delegates. Even when it 'asks politely' there is a clear insistence, and the politeness is just for show. It's not a request. It is a demand. If the person is also an Si user, when Te asks someone to do something, they also wants it done exactly when they want it done and exactly how they want it done. If these demands are not followed explicitly, there will be trouble. To make matters worse, Te often neglects to consider the details when it delegates. An example would be insisting that someone clean something, then standing in front of the sink preventing them from cleaning it. Another example would be demanding that someone repair something, but failing to provide proper parts or tools, yet refusing to allow someone to obtain them. However, I do have to admit that the more time I spend with my INTJ friends, the less averse I have become to Te. Interesting how our preferences develop with exposure. Anyone else have clashes with Te in this manner?