Superficial Friend (Pouring My Soul Out)

I think if you give it time the pendelum will swing back to the other side - from misery to happiness. I hope the best for you.

 

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Try not to beat yourself up too much. Things like this happen, you will get duped and betrayed. I know that feeling of 'what's the use' and wanting to give up. Believe it or not you will learn and grow from this but it'll take some time. I don't know what else to say right now. Just wanted to say I care and I know it's not easy. Don't give up.

 

Dragon

catch a hold of yourself - sounds like you have been pushed into shadow-functioning.

Don't regret that you were loyal and kind - its his fault if he is a liar, not yours.

 

If everyone saw through him and the girls still lapped him up, then it's not on you but them. They knew what they were getting in for, and they jumped on board. If they didn't know, but everyone else knew, and all those people were aggro at your mate, then it's them who are the hypocritical bastards because they should have warned the girls and they didn't. They're worse than he is.

He was only having fun, they were being hypocritical bastards.
Or the girls knew they were being used as cum dumpsters and liked it.

Either way, everyone was having fun. You're not to blame.

 

No one easily navigates life; no one has a "normal" life. Everyone wears masks. Masks are meant to deceive, meant to keep people out. Unfortunately, masks often work. And some people are amazing actors.

 

I knew someone like that. The only person in real life that I have ever called a narcissist. I ended up pitying him more than hating him by the end of it though. There is just something inherently pathetic about people who see other people as objects.

 

Actually it is much more antisocial than narcissistic. I just didn't know the difference back then. Antisocial people tend to have that special charm about them that lets them use people, but they are cloaked in deceitfulness.

 

I believe strongly there doesn't have to be someone at fault or someone to blame. Contemplated that a lot over the years. I had to learn to accept myself before I could accept others.....mostly. Been hurt a few times. Lived through it all so far. Hurt so badly before I fould rest in my loneliness for awhile, but we need others to survive. We must survive, as there is a responsibility to do so. I think you will have different questions for life when you heal from the pain.
Nobody cares? I feel you will find a support group here that will lay that one under your feet and behind you. Would you read the Optimist Creed for me today?
http://www.his.com/~z/optimist.html

 

He sounds like a typical sociopath, charming manipulative and seeing people as only things which he can use. That's very much the behaviour of someome with an antisocial personality disorder.

 

Hang in there, everyone feels alone sometimes Especially INFJs I think. Other people's lives might seem "perfect" and better than yours but everyone has problems and struggles that they usually don't make obvious to others (unfortunately people tend to act like everything is perfect otherwise they feel vulnerable). I'm sure if people were more honest, you'd find that their lives aren't as easy as you think.

Believing in the best in somebody else is NOT a failure either, it reflects that you're a good person. You should be proud that you were loyal, and stood by your friend. I'm sorry that he disappointed you - you didn't deserve that.

 

Hey, Dragon, it sounds like you're in a funk. Don't be so hard on yourself for not recognizing a jerk right away. The important thing is that you DID recognize him, right? Cut the toxic people from your life so that you can detox yourself.

Get some space. Clear your head. Reflect. Try again.

Don't assume your life is worthless just because of some loser you knew in high school, lol. That's just silly. You're better than that, even if you're not giving yourself enough credit right now.