TinyBubbles
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I'd love to have kids. It'll never happen though - I don't think I would make a good husband.
you can be a father without being a husband
I'd love to have kids. It'll never happen though - I don't think I would make a good husband.
you can be a father without being a husband
I don't think that is the goal here.
perhaps not but it is still a viable alternative.
But that wouldn't be fair on the kids. Of all the kinds of people I am most unwilling to short-change/neglect/dissapoint/etc my kids (if I had any) would be at the top of the list.you can be a father without being a husband
But that wouldn't be fair on the kids. Of all the kinds of people I am most unwilling to short-change/neglect/dissapoint/etc my kids (if I had any) would be at the top of the list.
It's better if I just become a hermit.
I'm sure they turn out fine, but I'm not going to be the prick who leaves kids without a father. But since I don't think I'm suited for marriage, I won't ever have kids.it wouldn't necessarily disadvantage them. many kids grow up fine with a single parent. likewise children of parents with a strong marriage don't always lead happy, productive lives.
I'm sure they turn out fine, but I'm not going to be the prick who leaves kids without a father. But since I don't think I'm suited for marriage, I won't ever have kids.
I am unwilling to give kids an upbringing inferior to mine.why would you be leaving them? maybe you could take on the full parenting duties of a mother who doesn't want her kids. you could also adopt. being a father doesn't automatically require being a husband, or even being in a relationship for that matter. (i know it's unorthodox, but it's still possible).
I'm sure they turn out fine, but I'm not going to be the prick who leaves kids without a father. But since I don't think I'm suited for marriage, I won't ever have kids.
I agree with not leaving your kids without a father. Regardless of how successful or happy they end up being as adults, there's a lot of heartache, confusion, emptiness etc. for kids who don't have fathers, not to mention the impact it has on other relatives.
I wouldn't give up on ever marrying someone, though. There's could be someone out there that will change your mind completely.
It isn't that I haven't found the right person: I'm not the right person.
it wouldn't necessarily disadvantage them. many kids grow up fine with a single parent. likewise children of parents with a strong marriage don't always lead happy, productive lives.
At the risk of splitting this thread, I have to say that kids need both the feminine and the masculine perspective growing up. This isn't to say they can't get it from two of the same sex, or from other outside sources. But it takes a truly outstanding person to raise a child on their own and give them all the perspectives and wisdom that they need. It's almost impossible for one person to do it.
And yes BB, I think boys need their dad's a little more and girls need their mom's.