Satya's Philosophy: The Greatest Pain

The greatest pain in this world is to be unloved.

To be cheated on by your lover.
To be betrayed by your friends.
To be abandoned by your family.
To be ostracized, segregated, or tormented by your fellow human beings.
To be forsaken by your God.

What people tend to forget is that love serves only one purpose. That purpose is unity. Love exists to bond people to each other. While the reasons love brings people together may vary...

For procreation or sexual gratification
For fun, fondness, and utility
For stability and security
For a certain way of life
For faith and hope

...what always remains the same is how love seems to draw people toward oneness.

However, choosing love means choosing pain. Love empowers. It delegates a special power to others known as trust. Those who cannot bestow trust in others are incapable of love. But trust is easily violated. People are often unwise in how they use this power delegated to them by others because they often love themselves first and foremost. And thus, pain is an inevitable part of love because human nature is imperfect and inherently selfish. That is why lying is a detestable sin. It violates trust, it destroy bonds, it make peoples feel unloved, and its brings them great pain.

Love is also the source of all conflict, simply because love is divided.

Those who first and foremost choose to love themselves.
Those who first and foremost choose to love their friends and family.
Those who first and foremost choose to lover their lover.
Those who first and foremost choose to love their people or country.
Those who first and foremost choose to love their God.

By choosing to love one being over another, humans create all the conflict in this world. Human greed, pride, possessiveness, bigotry, and righteousness are born from these choices. Those who choose to love one more than another look down on all those who do not share their kind of love. They see their love as superior to all other forms of love. A Randist may say that for a person to love themselves is the greatest love and all other forms of love are irrational, whereas a Christian may say that for a person to love God is the greatest form of love, and all other forms of love are blasphemous. Choosing one form of love over another defeats the purpose of love, since it divides people.

True unconditional love may be to embrace the greatest pain as part of life, and to use it to help us remember why we must always love others. As long as we can remember what it feels like to be unloved, we can find the strength to trust in and love others.

 

I am feeling awfully snuggley today. But don't tell the other INFJs.

 

Shuddup.

 

My apologies. I was debating with some Christians the other day, and they argued the Aquina's perspective that since God is the most rational being, he is the most deserving of love. And they further eluded that love for God must come over love for neighbors, friends, lovers, and even family. They cited the story of Abraham and Issac to demonstrate this point, since God demanded greater love from Abraham than he had for his own son. This is what I find to be intuitively wrong with the Christian religion. Love that is out of balance. A God that demands so much and belittles the human love that he has so graciously gifted us. But this also permits a sort of religious bigotry, by which anyone who is chooses to love another human being seemingly more than God is judged harshly.

Perhaps. Perhaps that is the underlying force. Jealousy is born from not having the total love that you desire.

Is it possible that we choose to love certain things more than others to condemn those who possess love that we wish we had? Do we attempt to estrange others from love by judging them?

 

That's simply what I don't like about Christianity. Why should anyone be forced to love a God above everyone else who is invisible and silent? Especially since in order to do so we have to believe a contradicting book which has sexist, homophobic, racist, and sadistic themes. I would sooner go to hell than spend eternity with a God who is so dumb and twisted that he punishes people for not loving him when he has provided that kind of sketchy evidence of his existence. But that is another debate.

I guess it is simply going to have to be my choice. I'm fine with others choosing to love their God above everyone else, or loving their child over their own life, or even loving themselves more than their friends, and so forth, because people have their reasons. But since I know what it feels like to be unloved, that is going to be my reason to love everyone as much as I can.

And that corresponds with my spiritual beliefs since I believe God is love. Therefore, the best way to bring God into people's lives is to bring love into their lives. If I'm wrong and I was supposed to follow some hierarchy of love established by a bunch of people living in the Middle East and Greece a couple thousand years ago then so be it.

 

The answer to that question seems obvious to me. A desire for power and control. I honestly think that desire is the sole thing that distorts love. People will find ways to exploit people's trust, and thus their love, whether it is through politics, religion, the media, etc. for the purpose of dividing them so that they can profit off those divisions. It makes perfect sense to me. When you consider how profitable war is, how the best selling books of all times are religious scriptures, how people spend countless hours watching the crap on television, and on and on, it seems clear that people will seek to divide your love for their own gain.

Love only exists to unify us, and if a person is truly capable of fully embracing it, then nobody has any power over them. Power and control become illusions when a person lives only to love.

 

You are assuming that people are born loving, or that human beings began as a loving people. We began as animals, and to this day we are born as animals. Every individual must learn to love, but those who fail to do so will only understand power and control. The difference between a beast and a human being is love.

 

oops.

I guess I must be pretty tired to have misread that to such an extent.