Hey there, I am just curious on your thoughts, as my INFJ female pattern (we are mid 30s) has ended our 2y relationship. For me (I am INTP-A) it came as a total surprise but in retrospect, I neglected all the subtle signs of her taking a step back.
When we came together, we had such a deep connection on nearly everything and in my opinion we both had found a partner to live with forever (she said this often).
However, after a while, reality got us and she suffered from the drama in my life that I had with my ex wife in connection with the two kids. My INFJ embraced the kids and tried to do everything she could to have a good relationship and she somehow coached me what to do. However, I was to slow to make the changes she so much demanded.
We wanted to move together but it took nearly a year as I was not fast enough on the search. I also worked so much while she pretended it is okay. We also engaged in some unnecessary discussions on politics etc., me arguing logically while not realizing her emotional drama I have caused once in a while.
Until the end we always had our sweet moments, traveling and telling the other about our mutual love.
However, suddenly, she told me it is enough and she can't be in the relationship anymore only to have changed her mind 2days later - then again wanted to break up. We talked a lot and in our talks that went for hours she sometimes made the comment that she still loves me and she is unsure about it and has again to think about it. After the separation we had a one week holiday where we talked a lot, holding hands and where happy together.
However, after returning, she finally decided to end this. She realized that I have understood the problem to its core but I think she can't trust me somehow and I don't know if what she says is what she thinks.
She sometimes texted me but was not always happy with my lengthy explaining responses. I told her to not contact her in the next weeks with her asking me sometimes organizational stuff (where I think this is not the reason for her to ask).
I could go on but I will not make it too big here. Any comments highly appreciated. Thanks.
When we came together, we had such a deep connection on nearly everything and in my opinion we both had found a partner to live with forever (she said this often).
However, after a while, reality got us and she suffered from the drama in my life that I had with my ex wife in connection with the two kids. My INFJ embraced the kids and tried to do everything she could to have a good relationship and she somehow coached me what to do. However, I was to slow to make the changes she so much demanded.
We wanted to move together but it took nearly a year as I was not fast enough on the search. I also worked so much while she pretended it is okay. We also engaged in some unnecessary discussions on politics etc., me arguing logically while not realizing her emotional drama I have caused once in a while.
Until the end we always had our sweet moments, traveling and telling the other about our mutual love.
However, suddenly, she told me it is enough and she can't be in the relationship anymore only to have changed her mind 2days later - then again wanted to break up. We talked a lot and in our talks that went for hours she sometimes made the comment that she still loves me and she is unsure about it and has again to think about it. After the separation we had a one week holiday where we talked a lot, holding hands and where happy together.
However, after returning, she finally decided to end this. She realized that I have understood the problem to its core but I think she can't trust me somehow and I don't know if what she says is what she thinks.
She sometimes texted me but was not always happy with my lengthy explaining responses. I told her to not contact her in the next weeks with her asking me sometimes organizational stuff (where I think this is not the reason for her to ask).
I could go on but I will not make it too big here. Any comments highly appreciated. Thanks.