This is likely a "yes" question, for most, but I think everyone experiences it to differing degrees, but I'm interested to see how it plays out for everyone in their experience.
This is not a request for personal advice, just a chance for INFJs to share their experience with this topic. I recommend that everyone avoids giving advice, but instead describe their own experiences and what has worked for them.
Do you often find that you're having to constantly prove yourself to everyone, professionally, personally, socially, because of type or personal characteristics more than other types or personalities? Do people constantly put you in a box, define you as one thing, and then try to convince you that you are more or less than what they perceive? Do you find that as much as you're confident in yourself, most will think you're not unless you do something to prove it? Give examples if you can.
How do you handle this, apart from the typical "I am so confident, I don't let what anyone thinks affect me." (I tend to people please, and not because I want people to like me, but because I'm in a position where people's opinion of me counts in terms of job requirements and expectations, so any response which begins with, "I do whatever, doesn't matter what other people think, is highly impractical" (at least in my situation). I can be completely comfortable, relaxed, being myself, and yet someone thinks something must be wrong, or personality-wise people think you're not working hard enough at the job because you are not exerting enough extraverted energy. In other words, you must perform constantly to make everyone think everything is good, and your doing ok. It's highly exhausting.
This is not a request for personal advice, just a chance for INFJs to share their experience with this topic. I recommend that everyone avoids giving advice, but instead describe their own experiences and what has worked for them.
Do you often find that you're having to constantly prove yourself to everyone, professionally, personally, socially, because of type or personal characteristics more than other types or personalities? Do people constantly put you in a box, define you as one thing, and then try to convince you that you are more or less than what they perceive? Do you find that as much as you're confident in yourself, most will think you're not unless you do something to prove it? Give examples if you can.
How do you handle this, apart from the typical "I am so confident, I don't let what anyone thinks affect me." (I tend to people please, and not because I want people to like me, but because I'm in a position where people's opinion of me counts in terms of job requirements and expectations, so any response which begins with, "I do whatever, doesn't matter what other people think, is highly impractical" (at least in my situation). I can be completely comfortable, relaxed, being myself, and yet someone thinks something must be wrong, or personality-wise people think you're not working hard enough at the job because you are not exerting enough extraverted energy. In other words, you must perform constantly to make everyone think everything is good, and your doing ok. It's highly exhausting.
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