If you got "get rid of religion" as the sum of my argument then either I didn't frame it correctly or you didn't understand it or some combination of the both.
The basic argument is that "marriage" is a union between a man and a woman as defined by law. That definition is based on Christianity, not on pure law. As such, it should be stricken. There are many religiously based laws in our country although we "pretend" we have a separation of church and state. Ever hear of Blue Laws?
If we base our premise on the stance that the term "marriage" must be seen as a secular definition--we have the authority to change it. If the claim is made that the state's opposition to gay marriage is based on religous beliefs (which it is) you can make the claim that it is discrimination based on religion and as such, is illegal.
The problem as I see it though will never get solved because I always see the gay side as wanting to force the anti-gay people to "accept" them--which they don't. They just have to accept that everyone is free to choose their way of life. Just as homosexuals see their way of life as right, so do anit-homosexuals. As long as everyone stays in their corner and acknowledges each other's right to life how they want to live without restricting others--who cares.
Well from what I understand marriage was adopted for legal passage of a dowry or endowment from a father to a new husband. I imagine this has some tax implication as well.
Given that the state or government has its definition of marriage separately than religious institutions, there are multiple definitions.
I think on a purely secular level, gay people want to be recognized as equal participating citizens. I am not gay. I don't understand, on a visceral level, the gay community. I tried being friends with someone that was gay. I think our different lives forced him to not continue our friendship more so than me. But I really didn't participate in any of the things he invited me to. my point is I still don't feel like I'm in a position to approve or deny another person the ability to do as the choose. I haven't really heard an argument that convinces me I'm entitled to do that.
I think the other part of the argument is to have some sort of legal basis for acting as their partners spouse in terms of end of life issues. Being able to provide care. Being able to speak on behalf of etc.
It's the non religious definition I think is the one being fought and argued about.
I don't understand how you can argue the religious definition. Someone came up with what god believed and if you subscribe to the whole theology, then I'm not sure how you petition the word of god.
My only contention in this argument is I don't believe anyone trying to stop homosexuals from what they want is based on anything but hate or ignorance. People can say, obfuscate, or confuse the argument all they want.
Nobody ever suggested I either like or dislike what other people do. What's being asked of me is to support the freedom for American citizens to do what they choose to do, and again I support that, as long as you stay out of my way and pose no risk to myself or someone I care about. I mean a health or financial risk. But an inconvenience risk like my kids will grow up with gay thinking friends and that in my mind will hurt them. Too slippery a slope.
So the semantics or using definitions of what marriage means based on something that's 100 years old hold no water. The definition can be what we decide it should be. And I in good conscience can't support hate, ignorance, or prejudice. So just can't do it. And if I have my way I'm stopping you from what you perceive as your right to deny other people their freedoms. (not you personally)
I believe that religion has its hand at the cause of most intolerance and hatred. The irony. So I may have taken what I thought you said out of context. But I reiterate my opinion and that the less religion we have the better out chance of survival. Jmo