Dating for me is an anathema. I often do not know what to say or do, and the small talk makes me feel uncomfortable. Heck, the regular talk makes me uncomfortable. I've never dated strangers, only friends, and the last "date" I had was over five years ago. No, it doesn't matter to me. No, I'm not pining. No, I really don't care that I'm not "gettin' any" - I've realized I'm in that category called "Gray-A" and it's really not a big deal to me, although I feel lonely sometimes.
Part of it is that I really don't see myself as that "desirable" and I don't mean that in a bad way or to be down on myself. I just see myself as a person. I don't get sex appeal (I'm really rotten at it). I'm more clumsy and nerdy and seriously? I never know when a guy is hitting on me or if he's a crazy stalker weirdo (heh. I've had experiences with crazy stalker weirdos).
So, all that background is to tell what happened to me today, and I want to hear your guys' take on it.
I was walking to work and I saw this guy with his pug. The dog came running up to me barking, so I tried to put the pug at ease by putting my hand to the side and talking to it in a quiet voice. While I was doing that, the guy started telling me that he had just moved here, and asked what I did. I told him, and we talked a few minutes. He asked me if I were going to school, and I said I was getting my degree in library studies and he started singing the Marion Librarian song from Sound of Music, and he asked me if I saw the film.
Now I was getting uncomfortable.
I sort of thanked him, he told me I was nice and said it's sad that there weren't enough nice people in the world and he was glad to have met one. I sort of just smiled and said I needed to go, but thank you, etc. then I took off.
Heh. When I told this to a coworker this morning, she said, "aww, it sounded like he was flirting with you!" I was sort of taken aback. He was nice and all, sure, but I kept thinking, "creepy stalker dude! He rapes babies! He has his ex-wife's head in a freezer!" while I was talking to him. And that wasn't me using Ni; that's just my initial reaction/fear when I meet some guy I don't know and he gets too friendly too fast.
Unfortunately, that's how I see come-ons, if I don't know the person. I'm terribly awkward with it.
So, here's where I ask for your take on the situation. Did I overreact? Was there something else I should've asked? What would you do in such a situation?
Part of it is that I really don't see myself as that "desirable" and I don't mean that in a bad way or to be down on myself. I just see myself as a person. I don't get sex appeal (I'm really rotten at it). I'm more clumsy and nerdy and seriously? I never know when a guy is hitting on me or if he's a crazy stalker weirdo (heh. I've had experiences with crazy stalker weirdos).
So, all that background is to tell what happened to me today, and I want to hear your guys' take on it.
I was walking to work and I saw this guy with his pug. The dog came running up to me barking, so I tried to put the pug at ease by putting my hand to the side and talking to it in a quiet voice. While I was doing that, the guy started telling me that he had just moved here, and asked what I did. I told him, and we talked a few minutes. He asked me if I were going to school, and I said I was getting my degree in library studies and he started singing the Marion Librarian song from Sound of Music, and he asked me if I saw the film.
Now I was getting uncomfortable.
I sort of thanked him, he told me I was nice and said it's sad that there weren't enough nice people in the world and he was glad to have met one. I sort of just smiled and said I needed to go, but thank you, etc. then I took off.
Heh. When I told this to a coworker this morning, she said, "aww, it sounded like he was flirting with you!" I was sort of taken aback. He was nice and all, sure, but I kept thinking, "creepy stalker dude! He rapes babies! He has his ex-wife's head in a freezer!" while I was talking to him. And that wasn't me using Ni; that's just my initial reaction/fear when I meet some guy I don't know and he gets too friendly too fast.
Unfortunately, that's how I see come-ons, if I don't know the person. I'm terribly awkward with it.
So, here's where I ask for your take on the situation. Did I overreact? Was there something else I should've asked? What would you do in such a situation?