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Nuances Between INTJ and INFJ (and More)

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INTJs and INFJs have much in common, but this likeness is often either underplayed or ridiculously overplayed. While both types have potential to be similar, they are both different in terms of what primarily motivates them. Both types create a map of relevant information and consult it for navigating within the world; for INTJs this map has to do with linear logic + methods of determining the logically sound modes of communication (Te) and absolute morals to guide them from right to wrong (Fi+Se), while for INFJs this map has to do with situational morals and adapting to the different needs of people in different contexts (Fe) and logical truths based on empirical evidence (Ti+Se).

Temperament

INFJs and INTJs belong to the same temperament, i.e. both the types have identical motivations but vary in method of operation. Both are Pi-dominant and Je-auxiliary. Both the types value their personal insights and perspectives much more so than the commonly accepted perspective for the sake of it, and utilize the external world to execute these perspectives outward. Both the types find little "comfort zones" in which to expand themselves, and find it difficult to move out of these comfort zones unprecedented.

Inferior-Se means:

1) Difficulty in adapting to new information. Because INxJs are so used to processing information that they already know, and comparing new information with what they previously understand, when they come across a new set of patterns that they have not internalized, they find it difficult to adapt to it as rapidly as an Ne-dominant would, for example.

2) Rejecting the commonly held perspectives in order to think outside of the assumptions of culture and tradition.

Ni-dominance:

Ni-dominance is often difficult to describe, because so few Ni-dominants exist in reality. The ones who do commonly mistype themselves as other types while the legions Si-dominants and Ne-auxiliaries like to fancy themselves as Ni-dominant because it seems trendy to do so and this muddles up the definition further.

Ni-dominance has very little to do with intellect, or the spiritual, or the supernatural - it has to do with rejecting everything around you in order to create a completely insular view of reality that you form by finding certain patterns in how the world works. Coupled with either Fe or Te, it is about creating one path to reach one goal, minus any consideration for the commonly held perspective of your environment.

The INFJ, coupled with Fe, only cares about using the constructed ethical norms to get from point A to point B. In rare cases, they also care about challenging the ethical norms to what they consider more efficient for themselves and society as whole.

The INTJ, coupled with Te, only cares about using the constructed systematic norms that function on objectively verifiable criteria to get from point A to point B. In rare cases, they also care about challenging these norms to what they consider efficient for themselves and society as whole.

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Remember Ni doorslam? That was a long time ago when people actually recognized what Ni-dominant meant. It's when the Ni-dominant doesn't consider you an important enough part of his or her life and cuts you off. This is different from when Fi-dominants cut you off; Fi-dominants only cut you off because you have offended or hurt them in some way. Ni-dominants will cut you off when they have no more use of you. This is a completely natural inclination in the world of the Ni-dom, and they are not the least bit bothered by what their peers think of this behavior.

This changes with age as they integrate Se into their life and become more accepting and considerate of the perspectives and conditions that exist outside of themselves. When the INFJ or INTJ has integrated Se into their lives, they become less overtly critical and judgmental of the world, and simply start to exist as who they are.

In simpler terms:

Ni-dominance focuses on what remains after you strip down everything to its bare-bone essentials, minus culture, tradition, religious influence, regional differences, etc. and uses this focus to create a definite map of how to reach certain Je-based goals.


Fi/Te Philosophy vs. Ti/Fe Philosophy


This is slightly more complex to get into, but I suppose in the interests of this thread, I will have to.

Fi
, in its totality, is about believing that everything and everyone has its own unique set of properties and characteristics. Everyone has its own place in the world, and the only way to truly get along with each other is to find this place, and be accepted for who you are. Fi is about finding common (inherent) absolutes that lead to harmony.


INTJs have tertiary Fi and often revert to this perspective when reasoning with others. For example, when they cannot agree with another person's ethical and ideological choices, they simply end communication rather than compromise, because compromising one's ideals is a despicable idea to the INTJ. To the INTJ, everyone has the freedom to believe and practice what they may, but not everyone can get along with everyone else and believing so is impractical and unnecessarily politically correct. They often believe they should have the right to choose whom they interact with. They have an acute sense of what they agree with and what they do not, and will often make it clear that they do not wish to communicate with someone if their ideologies conflict.

They often also make a clearer distinction regarding whom they consider a "friend" and whom they do not. There is little grey area.

Fe
is about believing that everything and everyone needs to have a shared set of properties and characteristics, and uniqueness in terms of ethical beliefs is retrogressive. The only way to truly get along with each other is to find common ground and compromise. Fe is about finding a common (created) language that leads to harmony.


On the other hand, the INFJ has a much more flexible perspective of ideological views. When they cannot reason with others, they choose to compromise their ideals if they must, because in order to remain united and progress within the world, it is important to find common ground with others and work your way forward based on that. Rigidity is a strange idea to the INFJ, who does not understand why anyone would reject people based ideological differences when there is so much potential to grow and learn together.

Even if they disagree, often, they prefer to remain in the "grey area" than outright reject anyone. This is why often a large number of the INFJ's social circle consists of people within the "grey area" because they do not like to limit the potential of their relationships by putting them into clear-cut categories.

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INFJs create spontaneous categories (Ti), but none of those categories are externally implied. They are internal and meant for the individual. For example, an INFJ may understand that person A is different from person B, who is different from person C, but person A and person D share certain qualities, and person C is definitely similar to person E. These are categories that exist in the INFJ's mind to help him/her order the external world (Fe). They see the world as a continuous grey area where people can exist in moderation and everyone deserves the same social/ethical respect as everyone else.

INTJs create induced categories (Te), which are externally implied and meant for bringing structure to their external environment. For example, an INTJ may understand that person A is rich and influential, and person B is poor and powerless, therefore association with person A is probably more beneficial because person A can bring more objective benefits than person B. Person C is X educated, and person D is Y educated, where Y > X, thus person D's opinion holds more validity. However, whether or not they respect or communicate with people is often independent of this categorization, and comes from their tertiary Fi. They may see person B as objectively non-beneficial, but they might think he is a humble, kind-hearted person with good conscience and prefer to associate with him instead of person A (assuming person B does not have conflicting morals, values and ideals compared to the INTJ in question).

Fe/Ti: Everyone should have equal social position, but internally be more or less efficient at their individual talents.

Te/Fi: Everyone should have the social position they deserve based on objective testing/criteria, but internally be at peace with themselves and their worth.

[Note: Communism and socialism are more inclined towards Fe-based philosophy, and capitalism is more inclined towards Te-based philosophy. An interesting parallel I think.]

More on Inferior Se
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To understand the nature of inferior Se, it is important to focus on its opposing incarnation, i.e. Se in the dominant position.

Se-dominants grow up with the focus of adapting to the present. They do not care about (theoretical) possibilities and potential like Ne-dominants do, as much as they care about the many ways in which they could adapt to the present. Note that this adaptation is not synonymous with following the latest trends in fashion or pop-culture [despite the fact that Se-dominants are often keenly aware of their surroundings to have an idea of what the latest trends are like], it means assuming the perspective of the situation they are present in.

For example, if an Se-dominant is present in an American country, they will understand the people as they exist in America and understand and value culture as it exists in America and form opinions and views with respect to what is happening strictly in America.

There is no motivation to counter the commonly accepted method for the sake of countering it, there is no deliberate rebellion. However, they do care about the many ways in which they could make the best out of a situation they are put in at present, and navigating with the help of their Ji-function. They resent focusing on things that do not immediately affect the surroundings in favour of a supposed long term "meaning".

On the contrary, in the inferior position, Se has a polar and opposing effect. Ni-dominants grow up with the focus of being maladaptive to the present and staying strong with their own perspective. They might sometimes follow the accepted way to maneuver externally, but they often realize it and automatically resent it. Being Ni-dominant comes with an irrational distaste of all things Se by default, and they try to go against it as much as possible until they have grown up old enough to integrate that perspective into their lives.

Playing on the previous example, if an Ni-dominant is in America, they will try to understand people as they exist universally, try to ignore constructs such as culture because it distracts them from what they consider important (i.e. people and systems as they exist without the intervention of culture or tradition), and form opinions and views as they understand them universally minus the intervention of external operators.

This is why there are few Ni-dominants in reality because relatively, fewer people grow up with inferior Se.

Similar to Se, Si-dominants grow up endorsing the world (albeit, through a very narrow focus) because they value the things they have experienced in their lifetime; they value relationships built on time, they value longevity of their favorite things, they value their household, their surroundings. They value and understand that these things brings value and meaning into our lives and branching off into pointless variables and possibilities is retrogressive and antithetical because it devalues the work culture and society as whole has brought to humanity.

But what about the function superpowers? What about my ability to look into the future?! My super Ni death-ray?

None of it exists! :) Pure fanciful fluff.

External links:

http://www.personalitynation.com/analytical-psychology/260-dominant-introverts-functions-you.html
http://www.personalitynation.com/infj/3317-infj-jungian-cognitive-function-analysis.html
http://www.personalitynation.com/intj/3480-intj-jungian-cognitive-function-analysis.html
http://www.personalitynation.com/analytical-psychology/2844-thinking-function.html
http://www.personalitynation.com/analytical-psychology/2873-dynamics-cognitive-functions.html
 
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Fe/Ti: Everyone should have equal social position, but internally be more or less efficient at their individual talents.

Te/Fi: Everyone should have the social position they deserve based on objective testing/criteria, but internally be at peace with themselves and their worth.


I agree with almost everything you said but why would Fe not think that people should have self worth. I think Fe wants people to have a fair chance at being equal but it doesn't necessarily go out of its way to achieve that.
 
I agree with almost everything you said but why would Fe not think that people should have self worth. I think Fe wants people to have a fair chance at being equal but it doesn't necessarily go out of its way to achieve that.

Not self-worth, and these concepts are not mutually exclusive. Fe-users prefer there to be shared properties among the people they interact with, which is why Fe is often equated to external ethics, because ethics ensure one way of having shared properties among people. But this is not what Fe is limited to, and it is not necessarily that Fe-types all follow the same external ethics. Self-worth as we commonly understand is not what I was referring to. Rather, a closer term would be self-preservation. Fi is preserving, Fe is compromising.

It's also not necessary for Fe and Fi-types to conflict because it is entirely possible for Fi users to follow the same ethical properties that the Fe user requires in order to feel at peace (and this usually is the case), except the motivation is internal rather than external.

One embarrassing example of Fe in myself: when I talk to different people, my tone changes accordingly. On some forums I'm inclined to talk in a certain way and use certain vocabulary because the users of that website understand that vocabulary, and be entirely different elsewhere. This is not lack of identity, it is adapting to the structure (note: not perspective) to get to my desired outcome. INFPs would find this behavior strange; INTJs can probably relate somewhat, because auxiliary-Te has a similar effect. Like I said, adapting to the external structure to get from point A to point B.
 
I have assigned you subjective worth [MENTION=3538]Arsal[/MENTION]
Nice post ;)
 
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One embarrassing example of Fe in myself: when I talk to different people, my tone changes accordingly. On some forums I'm inclined to talk in a certain way and use certain vocabulary because the users of that website understand that vocabulary, and be entirely different elsewhere. This is not lack of identity, it is adapting to the structure (note: not perspective) to get to my desired outcome. INFPs would find this behavior strange; INTJs can probably relate somewhat, because auxiliary-Te has a similar effect. Like I said, adapting to the external structure to get from point A to point B.

No reason to be embarassed. I've given a lot of thought to this type of mentality. Some see it as manipulative and superficial, but I see it as speaking the language that is necessary in a situation.

With that said, however, for some reason when I've communicated with INTJs I've often not followed through with that. It's like you said, I've always tried to find some compromise. And they don't do that. One is better off simply trying to find some mutual understanding between the two philosophies.

Although, I think connecting Fe to Communism and Socialism would get me in a lot of trouble here in the states.

It's not that I don't vaule "uniqueness", as Fi likes to put it. Sometimes just being myself isn't tactful, as I've discovered. What I think I should do is frame things differently than I naturally do in certain situations.

I'm sure one can do it without being dishonest. It's all in the phrasing. I'm well aware that people can read or hear the same information and interpret it differently than my intentions.
 
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On the contrary, in the inferior position, Se has a polar and opposing effect. Ni-dominants grow up with the focus of being maladaptive to the present and staying strong with their own perspective. They might sometimes follow the accepted way to maneuver externally, but they often realize it and automatically resent it. Being Ni-dominant comes with an irrational distaste of all things Se by default, and they try to go against it as much as possible until they have grown up old enough to integrate that perspective into their lives.

Brilliant. Like the whole article, actually, and what's being said here. I think a bit of healthy conversation bringing more discussions like these to the table is necessary and needed. This is a nice, balanced perspective. Ni-doms have just as many problems as the rest of the world, and we aren't perfect navel-gazers. Why should we be?

As to the door slam, that makes far more sense. I don't necessarily door-slam people I don't like, or door-slam people I'm at odds with. Sometimes I just door slam people who aren't interesting to me anymore (as horrible as that sounds) or if there is no way we can come to a consensus. And it's not really a slam; it's more like I let them go their way and I don't associate with them anymore. There's no more personal connection. I tend not to do that a lot, though, because I'd like to find *some* common ground. But if there's no common ground and I've worn myself out trying to find it, well - no matter. I'm "done." I'll still be polite and kind to them, but there's something missing in that kindness.

Thanks, [MENTION=3538]Arsal[/MENTION]!
 
Yes I agree [MENTION=442]arbygil[/MENTION] There was a very interesting thread on INTJ forum the brief time I was on that forum about how INTJ's don't remember names. I am terrible with names. As horrible as it sounds, I will tend not to remember someone's name unless there is an identified need to do so--found the explanation int the article very interesting. In this case, the door never even opened.
 
Yes I agree @arbygil There was a very interesting thread on INTJ forum the brief time I was on that forum about how INTJ's don't remember names. I am terrible with names. As horrible as it sounds, I will tend not to remember someone's name unless there is an identified need to do so--found the explanation int the article very interesting. In this case, the door never even opened.

I am exactly the same in terms of names. Even if I have an at length conversation with someone I will almost immediately forget what their name is because there is no reason for me to remember it.

I Ni door-slam all the time and I don't feel bad about it either. I get bored of people. And that's nothing against them, it's just that I have no use for them in my life and so I'm content to go my own way and let them go theirs (except they never want to go their own separate way, annoying!).
 
Yes I agree @arbygil There was a very interesting thread on INTJ forum the brief time I was on that forum about how INTJ's don't remember names. I am terrible with names. As horrible as it sounds, I will tend not to remember someone's name unless there is an identified need to do so--found the explanation int the article very interesting. In this case, the door never even opened.

So, true. When I was in high school I really annoyed my best friend because I needed to get her attention from across the quadrangle and the only thing I could come up with is, "HEY, YOU!"
 
I know what you mean about the names.... I might need to figure some way of remembering them, should I become a teacher.

If I take the time to learn someone's name, that signifies that they are of some importance to me at that given moment, but once that importance to me diminishes, their name in my mind follows it.

Example: I couldn't tell you the name of my lab partner for O chem last semester.
 
Not self-worth, and these concepts are not mutually exclusive. Fe-users prefer there to be shared properties among the people they interact with, which is why Fe is often equated to external ethics, because ethics ensure one way of having shared properties among people. But this is not what Fe is limited to, and it is not necessarily that Fe-types all follow the same external ethics. Self-worth as we commonly understand is not what I was referring to. Rather, a closer term would be self-preservation. Fi is preserving, Fe is compromising.

Well, Fe will work to find common ground in order to keep peace but will not want a homogenous group of people in order to achieve that goal. That leads to your last statement, Fe compromises.

Maybe where you're going with the "self worth" is that everyone should have their own opinions about things but should be placed in hierarchies based upon how valid they are (in Te/Fi) but with Fe/Ti, everybody's opinion should find some common ground and should be respected, even though it may not be "logical", coherent or well formed.

Ex. This guy at work told me today that "if you accept Jesus into your heart, you live longer". The responses to that would be...

Te/Fi: It's alright this guy holds this opinion, but he's not an authority on the matter, nor an expert of any kind on it so I could disregard it. I might say it's wrong if I don't agree with it.

Fe/Ti: Well, longer life could be for a number of different reasons other than Jesus making it longer such as sobriety but I won't say this to him because it could disturb the balance.
 
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Ex. This guy at work told me today that "if you accept Jesus into your heart, you live longer". The responses to that would be...

Te/Fi: It's alright this guy holds this opinion, but he's not an authority on the matter, nor an expert of any kind on it so I could disregard it. I might say it's wrong if I don't agree with it.

Fe/Ti: Well, longer life could be for a number of different reasons other than Jesus making it longer such as sobriety but I won't say this to him because it could disturb the balance.

Correctomundo.
 
Arsal I am so confused why you tagged me here.
 
I think I asked you to make this thread.
But I can't remember if I just imagined that or not.
 
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The OP is very good I think. The description of Ni is probably the best I've heard.
 
[MENTION=3538]Arsal[/MENTION] This is wonderful. I found your external links very helpful. I just have one question: Where is there room (as an INTJ for example) to develop their ability to tolerate complexity? Would this be the development of Fi? What, in your opinion, would this look like?
 
@Arsal This is wonderful. I found your external links very helpful. I just have one question: Where is there room (as an INTJ for example) to develop their ability to tolerate complexity? Would this be the development of Fi? What, in your opinion, would this look like?

Thank you. I'm... not sure what you mean by tolerating complexity. Could you be more specific?
 
Also, [MENTION=3538]Arsal[/MENTION] Would you say that Ni is developed and Se underdeveloped because of the tendency to daydream--the creation and existence within your own little world? I wasn't ever really out of touch with reality but I certainly spend a lot of time in my head spinning theory, scenerios, and analyzing. It could explain the underdeveloped Se. I can't remember seeing a thread about daydreaming but I wonder if Ni doms engaged in this behavior as children--thus defining their functions as adults.
 
Also, @Arsal Would you say that Ni is developed and Se underdeveloped because of the tendency to daydream--the creation and existence within your own little world? I wasn't ever really out of touch with reality but I certainly spend a lot of time in my head spinning theory, scenerios, and analyzing. It could explain the underdeveloped Se. I can't remember seeing a thread about daydreaming but I wonder if Ni doms engaged in this behavior as children--thus defining their functions as adults.

Yes, but be wary that this is not the same as when INxPs daydream. INxP daydreams are more about fabricating imaginative, anti-reality concepts and worlds and playing hypothetical scenarios within those worlds. Think Hayao Miyazaki; actually, a hell lot of Anime in general.

The INxJ daydreams are more about planning future events and reaching certain conclusions within your mind, and then trying your hardest to finding the pathway externally to reach that conclusion in the real world.

It doesn't have a correlation with imagination per se, but a focus on being completely insular in terms of influence from the outside world. However, they know when they are rejecting perspective outside of themselves and that it's a conscious choice - which forms the inferior Se function, or shadow.

Se>Ni:
vision --- check applicability --- not possible? change vision --- check applicability --- not possible? change vision --- repeat.

Ni>Se: vision --- check applicability --- not possible? find new ways to make it possible --- still not possible? push more --- still not possible? push more --- repeat

Something like that.
 
I agree [MENTION=3538]Arsal[/MENTION] Thanks for the clarification. I tend to get ahead of myself and speak in "short hand", especially if I consider the audience to be on the same page/wavelength with me. I was definately speaking of how you defined daydream versus the acutal "I have an imaginerary friend" kinda daydreaming. Building constructs in my head is as natural as breathing to me.