This term likes you.
Maybe the key is building up anticipation for the task in front of you. Like mm.... that pizza is gonna taste so good once I make it! I'll sit down and savor each bite and let the flavors just ooze in my mouth...
Most of us tend to build up negative anticipation ie. anxiety. It's too hard, what if I screw up? What if I don't like what I'm doing? I want to be able to like what I'm doing. I'm liking what I'm doing now.
@Deleted member 16771 touched up on it when he described his step-by-step process and suggested thinking of each step as 'easy.' That definitely feels softer than 'ughh, I don't want to do this.' That's a pretty good strategy, I think! I'll be incorporating that one.
Positive anticipation would work, but sometimes once we start 'anticipating' at all, the direction it takes is uncontrollable. My process was to try to remove all anticipation entirely.
I had to deliver a presentation recently, and I wasn't nervous until the very moment I had to get up and deliver it. I tried to make that day about other things. Walking to the venue, watching the other presenters, asking pertinent questions and being supportive. In doing that stuff, though, I was already
in the room - I wasn't going to escape it, because I was already there. There were background nerves, definitely, but I was
doing other stuff anyway.
Then when it was my turn it was like 'OK, I guess it's me then.
FUCK IT.' I got hit by a wave of nerves but powered on and focused
in on explaining the content I was actually delivering - falling back on my expertise. I thought I did terribly, but I knew I was making sense and people said after that I came across as very confident, engaging and competent (and they wouldn't bs). Part of me knew that, but there's another part that is just totally self-doubting who's blind to reality. I
didn't script it for this very reason - so I would
have to engage with the ideas consciously in order to explain them. The Q&A afterwards was easy for the same reason - the technical demands of having to
actually explain things relegates the other concerns (worrying about being shit).
I saw some people who wrote scripts delivering very nervously because they were just trying to
get through it - they were reading, but you could tell that their
mind was engaged in a completely different task - worrying. Funnily enough these same people were fine during the actual questions because they were engaged.
So here there's something else which works for me, and that's to make sure that my fucking brain is occupied in actually doing the 'onerous' task I've got to do.