Introvert on introvert relationships

How does this work? It's driving me slightly off the wall!



There's a girl I like. I know she likes me too. Let's not go into the "how do you know?" thing, because I know. But I can't seem to talk to her. Of course I've only hung out with her in person once and that was surrounded by all her friends so I naturally was not very comfortable and social.

I'm trying to get more face time, without friends being around, but it's rather slow going. Meanwhile online is all I've got to go on, and she's just... not very responsive. We both initiate conversations on MSN, but they wind up not going anywhere. Maybe I'm trying too hard, maybe she's scared of me, I don't know. It's just not working.

And it's incredibly annoying. How does this work? Is it possible to like someone you just can't talk to, or is this normal and will it go away? I don't really wanna waste time crushing on someone I can't verbally communicate with.

Then last night I was complaining to our mutual friend about how unresponsive she was on MSN and he's like "she's probably just tired, damn, I was about to start a discussion with her about Putin's pan-asiatic policies". And I'm like "wut!?" and find out that, no, that's not a joke and they really talk about stuff like that. Which means she has depth (hey, I was starting to wonder okay?) she's just not showing it to me.

I just don't understand. This is why I prefer extroverts.

 

Sounds more like what she's doing than what I'm doing, especially after what my friend said ("oops I said too much since if you think she doesn't have depth she's probably not showing you because she's afraid she'll scare you off"). Regardless, let's assume she is doing this. What would be a good way to get around/through that kind of defense?

 

Hmm, well that sounds like what I've been trying to do hoping she'll open up a bit more. Guess if it's that, I'll just need to be patient.

Honestly maybe she's just scared of me. We almost dated in the past and she freaked, and a few months ago said it was basically fear of commitment. If you don't date, you can't lose a friendship, and all that? But if it's that I can't do anything either, besides try and approach slowly and cautiously in the hopes she won't bolt again.

Though I'm not sure if it is that. She didn't seem afraid of me when we hung out.

I'm bad at that when someone barely responds. It makes me feel stupid. :/

 

Well I'm not the one saying that, she is. I think after she freaked we haven't been at all close and have been more attracted acquaintances than friends, so there was nothing to ever really lose in the first place!