I'm very sorry to hear that La Sagna.
INTJgal, I have a roommate who is inflicted with the ESTP personality type.
ESTP's are rather self-centered. There is an element of self-sacrifice to them that if they care about you, they will try to patch things up - as logically and quickly and possibly insincerely as possible (assuming sincerity is dependent on sustained commitment to make a change). It's more of a "Hey, I knew you were mad so I bought something from the store for you. All's forgiven? Great. Your forgiveness is a license to let me do exactly what I did that pissed you off in the first place again. What? I thought you were over it!" Apologies are means to make you ok with the things that irritate you about them, not an attempt to accommodate you. They don't change their behavior, you change your opinion or get out.
You can talk to an ESTJ and get somewhere with them. They'll try to honor your feelings, even if they don't understand. ESTP's demand that you honor their quirks, their emotions, their bad habits, but will lecture you about yours, and demand you tread on ice around their whims. They do not understand emotional communication/economy, and as such do not value it - which is how they can be so brazen about their needs, and oblivious to yours. To them, emotions just appear and need to be satisfied right away. They simply "feel" and "pursue" their own emotions without reflection or consideration. They lack both the F's inability to let emotional attachments go, and the J's ability to see something through to its logical, or contractual end. There's no sustaining motivation for commitment unless they're mature.
An ESTP who hasn't gotten over themselves isn't interested in a committed relationship unless you are constantly amusing to them, but I would never want to simply be the amusement in the relationship. That damning sentence written, it's also perfectly in line with an ESTP to just not take down their profile because they lack the will power to press a few buttons. It's a chore, and they're going to avoid it at all cost. If he's told you he wants to date only you, and has agreed to take down the profile, I'd give him the benefit of the doubt and say he's just too capricious.
This guy is going through a divorce, I would consider why that's happening before I'd consider anything more. As a guy though, I'll tell you he's going to be a challenge and hard to stay with if you are already having the need to go deep in conversations with him. ESTP's hate deep.