- Jun 10, 2010
How would you like to be approached by a man who you don
I have not talked to her before. I recognized her picture on a dating site (just a coincident), that's why I have typed her as INFJ.
In the forum stats - am I the only one who when he saw: "Forum women: How would you like to be..." thought Shai Gar must have started this thread?
Question for the OP:
Not that this really matters when it comes to the nuts and bolts of this problem (which is, essentially, who's going to overcome their shyness first) but how do you even know she's an INFJ if you're just exchanging long, lingering glances?
Good question! Reading her online profile was certainly helpful
By observing her IRL I can say she is xxxJ and probably IxxJ. It has become easy for me to see if people are J or P. Her profile confirms that she is I. She used the word shy three times, the word reserved once and that she liked her own company twice. It
I like youI'm not an INFJ, but IMO the most ideal way for a guy to approach me is to just be confident. I'm an introvert and can have a very hard time making the first move. That coy little "look at him, hold it, then look away" thing... screw that. I'm like a deer in the headlights. lol Once I know a guy's at least somewhat interested, though, I'm an incorrigible flirt, but I have to know he's interested first.
So if a guy just walked up to me, started chit chatting with me, normal small talk, non-threatening, but gave me that look, that smile, slips in the occasional compliment that let's me know that he's interested, then that's perfect. And if I'm not interested, it gives me the opportunity to either respond in kind or not. And if I don't, then the guy can still keep his pride pretty well because it's not like he blatantly asked me out and I rejected.
I overthink shit, don't I? xD
So "Pax" !! What has happened?
Hmmm, If I give eye contact that means I want (and pray) that he will come up and say hi to me, because there is no way I can speak first.
I have a short, nervous, look that means "please stop staring, you are freaking me out." Long eye contact is an open invitation...