INFJ relationships

[Daybreak]

It’s a refreshing change for me so thanks again for that.

 

[Wyote]

I’ll admit that I live in my own little world and working two jobs to survive doesn’t allow me much time to read through much of anything except the messages that come through to my emails in response to my posts.

I had already surmised as much
Just covering my bases for clarity, no worries

It’s a refreshing change for me so thanks again for that.

Any time

 

[President of Canada]

Do any INFJs have advice for communication with an INTJ? It feels like my boyfriend and me are almost speaking the same language, but not exactly. Something is lost in translation at times, and I would like to know how to speak his language better.

 

[Wyote]

Do any INFJs have advice for communication with an INTJ? It feels like my boyfriend and me are almost speaking the same language, but not exactly. Something is lost in translation at times, and I would like to know how to speak his language better.

Not sure what you're looking for exactly, but INTJs view things through a systems architecture lens, whereas INFJs view things through a human architecture lens.
We both often arrive at similar conclusions but the path is very different.
INTJs see pathways to efficiency.
INFJs see pathways to harmony.
Often those two things align.

 

[President of Canada]

Not sure what you're looking for exactly, but INTJs view things through a systems architecture lens, whereas INFJs view things through a human architecture lens.
We both often arrive at similar conclusions but the path is very different.
INTJs see pathways to efficiency.
INFJs see pathways to harmony.
Often those two things align.

The problem I find is that it's like he isn't always aware of the effect his actions have on other people.

He doesn't mean to hurt them and isn't malicious about it, but there's a disconnect.

I try to explain to him how he affected them, but he hears the words without really listening.

I find this quality of his admirable because he does not mean to cause harm, as some do, but I would like to help him connect with the other person.