I keep at a respectable distance away from ESTJs. I appreciate their energy and their practical skills, but from conversing with a few I find that we usually have no values in common, and for me to persuade them of anything else is very hard -- they are very stubborn in their opinions. They sometimes try to "dominate" me with their logic by judging what is right or wrong thing to do, according to them. I am then supposed to just accept these judgements without question, I suppose, because they act like what they are telling me is common sense knowledge, which arouses some internal protest in me. And they are not easy to access for INFJ emotionally because their emotions are introverted and hidden, and they are not receptive to extraverted feeling Fe.
I think this is a fitting profile for what
stereotypical ESTJ is like.
In socionics, the types that are the closest matches to INFJ and ESTJ are in
conflict relations. INFJs are better matched with types that value their Fe and Ti, while ESTJs are better matched with types that value Fi like ExFP and IxFP.
From my experiences, I can say that a relationship between INFJ and ESTJ is going to require a lot of work and the INFJ will have to suppress himself or herself and not voice some of his or her opinions (otherwise there are definitely going to be clashes over Ti logic of INFJ and Te logic of ESTJ).