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    I found interesting articles on how INFJ's develop their personality type during their lifetime. It says that we are drawn to develop different functions at phases. Starting from Ni and Fe then moving down the function hierarchy towards Ti and Se. So the older the INFJ is the more fully the personality is developed and it's easier for more developed ones to access different parts of their psyche. For example many of us young INFJ's are tied to our iNtuitive perception and it's easy to ignore the realities and facts in our search of the big picture.

    Older and more mature the INFJ is the more able they are to get the little things done and embrace Ti and Se activities. Get the toilet handle fixed and change the lightbulb when it burns etc. where young INFJ would go weeks and months without realizing the two inch dust layer covering their room :)

    http://www.infj.com/INFJ_Individuation.htm
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    and another one http://www.personalitypage.com/development.html

    I found this interesting and quite accurate for me.
    Can you identify these phases in yourself now or in the past?

     
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    I've seen that, but appreciate the order of the sequence, rather than the ages. And here's how MBTI certainly does NOT develop:
    [​IMG] :) :)
     
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    Yeah I think so too. However it's pretty good as directional guideline. I guess every INFJ has gone throught nearly similar process of developing functions but as Carl Gustav Jung it phrased 'Every individual is an exception to the rule.'

    I think it's pretty darn hard to grow up having Ni as dominant function. Child knows so little about the world and living inside our head in the world of imagination can make childhood a bit surreal experience. Little INFJ's most trusted function is a repertory of endless stream of possibilities which our unconsciousness constantly generates and imagination that is powerful enough to create whole universum out of nowhere. It's almost cruel to put little baby in the world with surviving-package of intuition and feeling. Having practical sensing and thinking type would have made it much easier.

    Afterall I'm quite thankful of my type, actually I love it. At times it's so cozy to sink in the Ni-magination world. For me getting deep understanding of the world that Ni produces makes life enjoyable. People can rarely fool INFJ's because our intuition sqeezes out the real intentions of people very quickly, Ni is like authenticity radar. Fe is very people oriented function and I love to create fulfilling frienships. Also my playful outlook on life stems from the depths of the feeling. Life would be really boring if I would just live with hundreds of routines, piles of cold facts and dead imagination.

    My Ni-phase 6->12

    INFJ's usually have unconvential and rich inner life as a child. I had philosphical and existental thought's and imaginative scenarios that were running on my head all the time. I don't know if this is common for INFJ's but at some point of my childhood the line between the real and the imaginary was quite blurred.

    At the age of 8 I had these imaginary mind games like 'everything is just product of my imagination'. At the age of 9-11 I read tons of thick fantasy books and spent alot of time in my head. It was the time when I got my Ni running and developed. I had fortunately close friends and loving parents during my childhood which kept me in touch with the reality.

    My Fe-phase 12->18 (and glimpse of Ti)

    At the age of 11-12 I got more realistic and payed more attention to what happened outside of my head. I began to understand the world as it is and had pleasure in just hanging out with my friends and doing things together. While I've got older my Fe has grown remarkably but I still have my peculiar and extraordinary imagination that entertains me when I let my mind wander. Fe shows itself in the form of having deep convictions, being social and going the extra mile to make others around me feel at ease.

    I feel like my Ni has continued it's developement in the background altough Fe has currently the top priority. I've also noticed that during past two years my Ti has awakened and the urge to understand things (especially people) has grown. Studying MBTI and other personality theories I think is byproduct of my Ti warming up.
     
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    I'm 19 now and personally I've went through both the first and second parts and still am in the second part. i can feel it haha
     
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    The order of developing Ni>Fe>Ti>Se certainly makes sense, and I agree with it mostly. I do not however agree with the ages. People are much too varient to be held to those windows.

    I am currently transition from developing Ti and more or less have solidified Fe. As such, I fit the age trend, but not everyone does.

    It is also possible for people to develop Se before Ti, depending on how much Fe the person has. This also ignores the shadow functions, which people do indeed develop. I developed Si before Fe, and I worked on Te (and still am) after I got a good hold over Fe.
     
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    "[SIZE=+1]At twenty you experienced a tendency to become more independent, more your own person, and became critical of your previous habits of submission to the wishes of others. Because this development was taking place in an introverted way, you were not fully able to explain to others your new determination to become more autonomous; hence others may have been offended or baffled by the change in you. At the beginning of this period you probably felt you were handling the transition badly, but your conviction that it was right helped you to persevere and grow. The solution to your occasional ineptness was, you believed, in going forward toward assertiveness, not back to your earlier submissiveness."

    That's why people don't like me anymore heh...
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    I've heard it's very common to develop tertiary instead of auxiliary, because it's
    orientation is the same as dominant's. I've seen many extroverts struggling to develop
    their introverted auxiliary since it requires them to spend time alone and work things
    through their head without including other people. It's propably as hard for extroverts
    to develop their auxiliary and inferior as it is for introverts.

    Possible in some rare cases where the opposite world of dominant function is preferred. In this
    occasion person is highly likely to develop as an ambivert. Having satisfying access to both
    introverted and extroverted processes. I know one ENFJ with well developed Ti. He is pretty
    different from the other ENFJ's I know, he is much more balanced and very intelligent.

    I think shadow functions are so individually developed that it's almost impossible to
    predict the pattern for it. Your theory of few INFJ's having Si and Te developed
    while some of us having Ne and Fi was very clarifying. My INFJ mom have Te and Si
    supporting her Ni and Fe while I have fairly well developed Ne and Fi. There's very
    little similarities in our behaviour, she is so practical that she appears almost like an
    ISFJ.

    Could it have something to do with enneatype? More realistic types like 6,5 and 8
    would be more inclined to have access on Te and Si. While more dreamy ones 4 and
    9 for example could have stronger Ne and Fi supporting their inner life.
     
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    I think it's true, and it's pretty consistent. Even the website said we grow at different rates and some grow slower (or faster) than others through these processes. I may have worked with my Se out of sequence, but I know my Se isn't mature yet (though this is the time where, supposedly, it should be developing). Although, some things are about this phase of my life are true. Maybe I'm still in the infant stages of Se. :D
     
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    Yup, I also think these wooden age boxes are too rigid +/- 5 years to each one
    would make it more realistic. One can develop his Se when he's 10 and Ni when he's
    60 but this indicates which function has the most priority at specific age. Althought
    I've been developing mostly my Ni and Fe, my Ti and Se has been with me all the time.

    Ti - As far as I can remember I've been interested in structure of things and
    breaking things into pieces. It's very interesting how little pieces work together
    and create the whole. (Ni + Ti)

    Se - I've always been into physical activities where I can impact and create.
    I like playing guitar, drawing, basketball, frisbee, trampoline, skiing, driving etc.
    (Ni + Se)

    As Nobleheart it said we can use our tertiary and inferior functions properly when we have
    our dominant and auxiliary running in the background. So when we use our Ti it's the most
    effective if we use it trough our Ni and Fe and when we use our Se it comes more naturally
    if we include our intuiton and feeling to the process.

    Using Ti through Ni and Fe would be something like creating or understanding complex structure
    that relates to people. MBTI is the perfect example.
    Using Se through Ni and Fe would be something like drawing about people or playing some
    musical instrument, music is quite feeling based in it's every aspect.
     
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    I've just recently realized how much I relate to Ti in this sense.
     
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    I agree you can't really draw a pattern with shadow functions, they can developed in any way in any order (or even not at all). I firmly believe that it is the shadow functions that create the largest differences between people within a given type. Why one person will select one shadow type over another is really unknown to me. It sort of just happens with what the person is confortable with. A driving force with it would be the level of the I and J scores.

    Ennagram would have a factor with it. I am a 5w4, and would explain the liking of Si and Te. However not completely because of the 4 wing.
     
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