See this is where you don't understand my situation. 100% my coworkers are not acting out of hate nor being abusive. They're poor ccommunicators who have psychological roadblocks in their lives they have yet to confront. They do not have ill intentions with their actions, I would look at it more from the perspective of dysfunction possibly caused by unaddressed mental illness/ self esteem issues. And what I have found is that 99.9% of the time when you encounter these situations, this is the case. The majority of people are doing their best and what they believe to be right. They are trying to be happy. And the thing is, judging them for it doesn't ever help. Telling an obese person they have to lose weight doesn't make them lose weight it makes the problem worse. Dysfunctional people know that they're dysfunctional, and nobody can fix them but themselves. They have to choose to fix themselves and leading by example is more effective than calling someone out because they don't bury themselves in a pit deeper of despair by someone else's judgement. Now consequences, if you don't do your job, that makes sense. But sometimes that's not what happens.