How to ask a Girl Out
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I usually come across very direct first to push aside any pretenses and/or head games.
The reason being is because most people consciously or unconsciously play "the game." It's the one where both are ambiguous with their interest or false interest. Like for example, a girl might portend she's interested in a guy and uses that to lure him to wine and dine her or spend money on her, or a guy might portend he's interesting in a long-term monogamous relationship when all he's after is a one night stand or fling.
I've gone to women and said stuff like straight out "I find you attractive and would love to get to know you." For instance, I met this beautiful French lady at the mall the other week and me and her ended up talking for a couple of hours before we exchanged contacts; my first exact words? "I want you."
None of that how's the weather, or getting their opinion crap.
The ironic thing is what got me rejected the most is what I was trying to bullshit them in the past, when I'm honest I still get rejected, but it's not as much.
The good news is: they know exactly where I'm coming form.
Why I do this? It's starting on a good foot, on good grounds, on honesty.
Most people are phony with each other, and that's sad. Hardly people are honest with each other. It's like with sex, how people can straight out say they want that? I have, and guess what, I'll just say me and her enjoyed each other.
It's counter-intuivie, but in society where people bullshit each other, it's refreshing to actually hear somebody speaking their mind.
Honesty is the way to go.
The reason being is because most people consciously or unconsciously play "the game." It's the one where both are ambiguous with their interest or false interest. Like for example, a girl might portend she's interested in a guy and uses that to lure him to wine and dine her or spend money on her, or a guy might portend he's interesting in a long-term monogamous relationship when all he's after is a one night stand or fling.
I've gone to women and said stuff like straight out "I find you attractive and would love to get to know you." For instance, I met this beautiful French lady at the mall the other week and me and her ended up talking for a couple of hours before we exchanged contacts; my first exact words? "I want you."
None of that how's the weather, or getting their opinion crap.
The ironic thing is what got me rejected the most is what I was trying to bullshit them in the past, when I'm honest I still get rejected, but it's not as much.
The good news is: they know exactly where I'm coming form.
Why I do this? It's starting on a good foot, on good grounds, on honesty.
Most people are phony with each other, and that's sad. Hardly people are honest with each other. It's like with sex, how people can straight out say they want that? I have, and guess what, I'll just say me and her enjoyed each other.
It's counter-intuivie, but in society where people bullshit each other, it's refreshing to actually hear somebody speaking their mind.Honesty is the way to go.
Ah, well it just seemed weird that their only post was a link, and that in their info their MBTI was 12.
and do talk about a relationship using IM also
You mean don't?
I 100% agree with this.I usually come across very direct first to push aside any pretenses and/or head games.
The reason being is because most people consciously or unconsciously play "the game." It's the one where both are ambiguous with their interest or false interest. Like for example, a girl might portend she's interested in a guy and uses that to lure him to wine and dine her or spend money on her, or a guy might portend he's interesting in a long-term monogamous relationship when all he's after is a one night stand or fling.
I've gone to women and said stuff like straight out "I find you attractive and would love to get to know you." For instance, I met this beautiful French lady at the mall the other week and me and her ended up talking for a couple of hours before we exchanged contacts; my first exact words? "I want you."
None of that how's the weather, or getting their opinion crap.
The ironic thing is what got me rejected the most is what I was trying to bullshit them in the past, when I'm honest I still get rejected, but it's not as much.
The good news is: they know exactly where I'm coming form.
Why I do this? It's starting on a good foot, on good grounds, on honesty.
Most people are phony with each other, and that's sad. Hardly people are honest with each other. It's like with sex, how people can straight out say they want that? I have, and guess what, I'll just say me and her enjoyed each other.
Honesty is the way to go.
