How do you get a girl not to like you anymore but still be friends?

Every social situation is unique and has its own complexities, so I hesitate to make a comment. One principle that might apply here is that one-on-one time with a person tends to invite intimacy if there is that latent desire in one or both people. It is easiest to remain friends, but not intimately, if you can hang out with other people present and do lighter activities that involve humor and such. Having personal conversations and being alone can invite the deeper feelings.

The first step I tend to take in resolving social issues is to organize the external environment to support the desired outcome. It is always the simplest first step.

 

I don't know any details about your situation, so that might not apply. I meant in the general sense of socializing and getting together in a casual way.

 

Well, in this case, I would be pretty thankful that she isn't demanding, because for me the threat would be that she starts wanting a lot of your time, as kinda ugly as that sounds. So then maybe now you just have a very fulfilling relationship with a very co-operative associate. I mean, she doesn't want a relationship you say, so I'm a bit confounded about that.

I'm probably missing some context here that others are aware of, but I feel like perhaps the real question is how to get someone to still have that strong co-operative feeling and maintain that they basically do really like you, but to produce a situation where you don't feel like they are expecting something, and thus your feeling responsible for those feelings and expectations. And for that, I myself would love to have an ideal soloution, but, I guess it comes down to the painful process of tempering someone's actual expectations of what kind of relationship to actually recieve from you.

 

Oh man, that's fantastic insight that I think you should take a second look at Slant, if of course it's the case that this person is expecting to spend time with you, because what she is saying isn't about feeding whatever it is that she is expecting from you, but something more casual and detached from what that might be.

 

Does she have a crush on you?

 

Hmm. Try developing coffee breath or picking your nose or burping infront of her. It might just turn her off romantically, but at the same time none of those things should end a friendship.

 

a massive hug and some words in her ear littered with compliments and your main message thrown in in between.

 

what if you tried to get to the bottom of it by addressing the issue directly?

i know that sounds rather unnecessarily confrontational, but it may help give you an idea of what her position is and to figure out what you can do further. in fact, you may as well be able to let her know your position on this, taken that the issue would already be candidly layed out.

this worked for me in the past, but i guess the success of it is also dependent on the other person's communication style and whether or not she is comfortable.

 

doesn't seem like it will become a problem taken how you describe her

'it' as in her platonic attraction to you

 

ohhh well that's a solution.

sorry i was not aware of the whole situation you were in. it's more complicated than it seemed.