friends and betrayal

Doesn't sound like they're being very good friends to you right now, sadly many people regardless of age allow others to influence their actions. Maybe organise something for you and Alyssa to do together outside of school, just the two of you.

I saw this happen to one of my friends Amy when I was at school, there were three of us that were best of friends and our other friend Lee turned on her and tried (somewhat successfully) to get our mutual friends to do the same and the group split, some nights I'd hang with Amy, other times Lee but I couldn't share their time again in a civil manner.

Thing is my first friend Amy was like you, she didn’t understand why things had changed or why they couldn’t patch things up, from my perspective it all related to a guy she had been interested in and introduced us all to that Lee had taken a liking to, she felt threatened having Amy around when she was trying to get him to pay attention to her, there was nothing Amy could do to fix the situation as Lee’s insecurity was way too high to handle what she perceived as competition.

FWIW I eventually dropped contact with Lee as her manipulation, which was clear to see, was too unsavoury for me to handle.

 

That's hard. I know how that loneliness feels, and that's hard.
First thing's first; try not to get too upset. Remember that there are periods where things get difficult...but that there's almost always a light at the end of the tunnel. Things will pass; life will go on.
Then, remember that if Brittany's the one that might be causing all of this...well, you still have Alyssa and Jessica. Keep your friendship with them. Even if they might be more busy or hanging out with new people, they might still also be there for you in the end. Let it breeze by; stay positive towards them, and there's a good chance they'll still keep you in their hearts very fondly.
In the meantime, keep trying to make new friends. They might not be as close; real connections can be really hard to find. But, it'll occupy your time and your mind, which is better than just letting yourself mull over your situation. Something is better than nothing!
And remember it's not your fault Don't beat yourself up over this-- I was a group wanderer too for quite a while, and you'll find where you are meant to be eventually. From what I gleaned of your personality on this forum, I doubt you're a bad or unapproachable person.

 

Oh my god, girl I feel for you. This sounds like the stereotypical 'mean girls' story and of course there is always a victim. I think it is lovely that you look upon this with wide eyes but be prepared for the worst. Because these are not what best friends do to you, stamping over you like a freaking doormat. You must see that, dont you?
I definetly understand how hurtful it must be. Although, you are making yourself a punshing bag, by forgiving them and becoming hopeful. And then have your expectations be lost again because they repeatedly do the same thing over and over, which will bring you down untill you reach the bottom.

You should definetly decide on whether you really want to be their friend when they are not acting like friends at all?
Also consider the fact that people change, I have seen good people metamorphosize into horrible backstabbers. If you decide to let them go, you will need a certain mourning time but thats okay.

On the other hand if you decide to keep those 'friends' then I recommend you to ignore them for a while and not talk to them - Instead let them contact you because they will eventually, because they miss you, if they are real friends that is ...

Alyssa probably just came over because she had a conscience. She probably wants to be your friend but can't because she wan't to hang out with Brittany who is the dominant leader so to say.
Especally as you mentioned she is a follower.

"The naked truth is always better than the best dressed lie!"

 

That's hard to go through.
I agree with what someone said - you sound like a very approachable person, and you deserve to be treated better. But I understand not wanting to lose your friends by walking away.
I would suggest trying to maintain your friendships with Alyssa and Jessica, if you want to try to sort it out. Who knows, maybe with time, they won't be as fond of Brittany (she doesn't sound like she treats people all that well given how she treated you). And in the meantime, try to keep getting to know people. I know it's never the same (at first anyways), but you never know who you'll end up meeting and becoming friends with!

 

I agree with soulful, keep interacting with other people. Because you might find someone special who catches your eyes ^^ Anyway I think that you have some initial introspection to do; figure out whether you should give them another chance, and settle on one, and tell them everything. If they redo it or think you are wrong on this subject, then you can for sure tell them to take a hike without any regrets.

GIRLPOWER I'm with you.

 

This is why I was friends with so many guys in high school. LOL

But really... It sounds like you have this figured out hun. You know you aren't being treated well but you're still allowing yourself to be treated that way. Unfortunately its up to you to break the cycle. You don't have to be mean - you don't even have to walk away. But Brittany is undoubtedly getting a kick out of you falling all over yourself to try and hang out with them. Don't give her that satisfaction. Girls turn evil at your age for some reason. Not all - but many and it sucks for everyone involved. Some of them get better - some don't.

You sound a LOT like me when I was your age and I don't want you to think it is all doom and gloom but you may be a group-drifter for awhile. I was. I've settled down with just a couple close friends but even they and I have had our moments where we did not get along very well. They ignored me, or I ignored them or something stupid like that. I have 1 true best-female friend that I can tell ANYTHING to. I have 2 female friends who I can tell a lot of things to. And a lot of other people I know and talk to sometimes.

Its a part of growing up that really sucks. People change and you will change too - and some of you - it sounds like maybe Alyssa and you - will grow together.

All in all don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and don't be afraid to be YOU! YOU can be a best friend to YOU and that can be a wonderful feeling. You are a fantastic person and can lead by example. I have faith in you.

 

you don't wanna know what I did to those who betrayed me. i had a few friends who were like that. Long story short, I shut them out from my life forever and completely. Everything nice they ever did was termed as " history " and that the only way I viewed them is horrible. I still view some of them that way. In a way, I realised that its to protect myself. How can you trust someone whos betrayed you? I mean sorry to get a little worked up here but to me, loyalty is one of the things I value the most. I will be loyal to a person as long as the person does not break the trust or loyalty. The moment they do, all hell breaks loose Thus, if I were you, I would just move on and leave them all in the past. The first few days/weeks would be slightly harder but as they say, time heals everything