GaiaGraha
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I know, this sounds kind of...elementary.
Here's the deal:
I went to a movie (Avatar, woo!) with some friends. One of those friends is one of my very best friends who we will call Julie for this, she is an ENFJ.
I have always thought of Julie as a very moral, wise, loving, and powerful female. She grew up very poor in NY, NY and worked from a young age to help her mother support her and her younger brother. Now she is an intelligent young woman who is putting herself through college.
ANYWAY
So after the movie, we were walking out and Julie noticed a purple scarf on one of the seats in the theater and so she picked it up and said "Look, someone left their scarf!". I instantly said "Oh! Well, I'm sure they have a lost and found, and the person will come back and find it-", she cut me off and said "Lost and Found? Screw that, I'm keeping it! I found me a new scarf!" and she then smiled and wrapped it around her neck. I was baffled by this and I said "But...it's....not yours..." to which she replied "It is now." I tried to reason with her: "What is that was their FAVORITE scarf, or what if their grandma gave it to them?" and "What if they can't afford another scarf?" to which she replied "Then they shouldn't have left it!" I said "They obviously didn't leave it on purpose" and she said "Well, it couldn't matter that much if they didn't watch for it." And I just gave up after that.
The thing is, it still REALLY bothers me. I have talked to other people and they agree that it was "wrong" or "bitchy" or "selfish" and that they would not personally do it, but I am the only one who is so very bothered by it. :/ I just, thought she was different than that I guess. It's not like she NEEDED that scarf- she has dozens!
I mean, I know this could be seen as trivial, and I know there are FAR bigger moral concerns...it's just that this really irked me.
So I wanted to ask you guys what you think about this.
Is Finders Keepers really a valid excuse for the morality of keeping someone else's temporarily/accidentally misplaced personal items?
Please explain?
Here's the deal:
I went to a movie (Avatar, woo!) with some friends. One of those friends is one of my very best friends who we will call Julie for this, she is an ENFJ.
I have always thought of Julie as a very moral, wise, loving, and powerful female. She grew up very poor in NY, NY and worked from a young age to help her mother support her and her younger brother. Now she is an intelligent young woman who is putting herself through college.
ANYWAY
So after the movie, we were walking out and Julie noticed a purple scarf on one of the seats in the theater and so she picked it up and said "Look, someone left their scarf!". I instantly said "Oh! Well, I'm sure they have a lost and found, and the person will come back and find it-", she cut me off and said "Lost and Found? Screw that, I'm keeping it! I found me a new scarf!" and she then smiled and wrapped it around her neck. I was baffled by this and I said "But...it's....not yours..." to which she replied "It is now." I tried to reason with her: "What is that was their FAVORITE scarf, or what if their grandma gave it to them?" and "What if they can't afford another scarf?" to which she replied "Then they shouldn't have left it!" I said "They obviously didn't leave it on purpose" and she said "Well, it couldn't matter that much if they didn't watch for it." And I just gave up after that.
The thing is, it still REALLY bothers me. I have talked to other people and they agree that it was "wrong" or "bitchy" or "selfish" and that they would not personally do it, but I am the only one who is so very bothered by it. :/ I just, thought she was different than that I guess. It's not like she NEEDED that scarf- she has dozens!
I mean, I know this could be seen as trivial, and I know there are FAR bigger moral concerns...it's just that this really irked me.
So I wanted to ask you guys what you think about this.
Is Finders Keepers really a valid excuse for the morality of keeping someone else's temporarily/accidentally misplaced personal items?
Please explain?