it wasn't defined in the article, it just spoke of general counterparts, think outside of the MBTI boxes. Any tread you have and the other person lack. Like when someone who can't express emotions will fall for someone who over express emotions.
Like when someone who can't express emotions will fall for someone who over express emotions.
I do not wholly support the counterpart theory. Seen too many couples broken after the initial attraction wore off - including my own parents (INTP and ESFJ). But some do manage to stay together. So it's not a hard rule.
In general if one has to constantly rely on the other then I would not call it a healthy relationship. It quickly transforms into clinginess or neediness. Mature love should be based on admiration and acceptance instead.
Also there seems to be statistical evidence that people who share at least some of character traits and interests have better chances at long-term relationship. There has to be something that binds them together.
I think it's possible that someone with well-developed functions would fall in love less easily because they wouldn't need someone as much. In other words, they wouldn't fall in love necessarily because they need to feel loved or appreciated, like many people do, but rather because they want a relationship with the other person. In other words, they don't fall in love with love, but love with the Other. At least, that's a theory.
However, I think that more people tend to fall in love with someone who is well-rounded because they have a higher likelihood of seeing some aspect the are attracted to in that person, especially if that person is kind and open. Sometimes a well-rounded person is more intimidating and strong, but even that often creates admiration.
The thing about the counterpart relationship is that it does create a strongly passionate relationship, but it seems to die as the passion dies. Real, lasting love is not greatly passionate; it is calm, appreciative, and nurturing rather than emotional and turbulent. So, in my opinion, it is better to find someone who you can relate to on an un-romantic as well as romantic level because those are the people you'll be able to stand once the passion begins to level out.
I'd say definitely ENFP is the best match for INFJ.
I'd say definitely ENFP is the best match for INFJ.