One of my friends (who often lies - he's a salesman) discovered research that claims that when people remember they look in one direction and when they lie they look in the other direction. It's fairly common knowledge used by interviewers. Now he knows this, so when he lies for a sales pitch he consciously looks in the "remember" direction.
The directions of the eyes are opposite for left-handed people. LOL.
I guess asking what hand a person writes with could be crucial interviewing information. If someone keeps looking in the lie direction, you should have them write something in front of you, so you can check without alerting them to their body language.
Can you tell when someone is looking at your eyebrows? I can. It's distracting because I start wondering what is wrong with my eyebrows instead of focusing on them.
I usually look at the details of their eyes - the pink veins in the sclera or the 'crypts of fuchs'.
@Asa I did know that yes, but to be honest I feel a little uneasy (even here amongst my INFJ brothers/sisters) posting something that might potentially help someone who was 'up to no good' lol. As it was my work for about 7 years to interview people to determine whether they were up to something, I have read a great deal on it, and had the opportunity to try it out. My honest view is that it's almost impossibly to definitively say any of it, you just have to pick up a 'vibe' and also, really just step back and look at things objectively.
If someone says something that seems unlikely to be true, in all likelihood it isn't true. No matter how convincing they are. I think a great deal of 'posed' behavior is quite obvious, very skilful liars don't need to use it, they just don't experience stress (or very little stress) when lying. For them, it's the same as telling the truth, and in fact they can be genuinely upset if you question them on it ! People's faces are to me the most common way to detect problems. People tend to exhibit 'micro' expressions that are almost impossible to hide or control. Some people, just through stress can exhibit a lot of 'lie' signals even when definitely telling the truth.
It's also possible for some people to lie, but believe themselves to be telling the truth, as they 'recreate' the events or just genuinely are mistaken or forget. The difficulty is dealing I think, with the two groups at either end of the spectrum, who either are practically incapable of lying (this may sound good, but actually can be very very difficult for that person in ordinary life) and those who lie as easily as telling the truth. The majority of us do lie a little, but tend to do so in small non-malicious ways. I guess even a salesman, has to make sales and might have to tell a small untruth to clinch a deal ?
I think though, with the eye contact thing (this will sound weird) there is maybe something a little deeper going on there. Have you ever seen those pictures of divers along side whales or similar ? The deep look or connection, seeing them make eye contact is something kind of amazing to me. There is a recognition of some kind going on that speaks to something inside all of us, I think. So I get it, why some people feel such an intense or difficult feeling making that eye contact. I think at heart it's a highly personal thing.
And now... back to Sports lol.
