Ever feel uncomfortable with the idea of someone being attracted to you?

If I know that nothing good will come of the attraction (that is, if the other person is likely to be hurt when it doesn't work out or is not reciprocated), then I find it awkward and bothersome. Initially I feel flattered, but if there are hints at anything more serious than a passing notice, it becomes a source of anxiety until the matter is resolved.

 

I find it annoying depending on how they approach it. I don't mind if people are attracted to me, but if they're going to be sleazy about it or if they start getting very needy with their feelings, I get aggravated really quickly. As soon as someone tells me they're interested I try to let them down as easily as possible so as to maintain the friendship or acquaintance but without having to worry about their attraction being a problem.

But if I'm mutually attracted to that person then I don't mind lol

 

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Well now, Indy, you only half-answered the question. How do you feel about the fact that 2/3 of forum members have the hots for you?

 

*headdesk* I don't mind it, but I usually read it, smile/laugh, then move on. I usually don't know how to respond to it. So it more just makes me unconfotable in that I feel obligated to acknowledge it (and I don't want to do it "wrong"). At the very least it removes any fear that I am not appealing to others.

 

Yes, I make sure that no one is attracted to me.
It makes me feel very uncomfortable and insecure.
I'm already insecure as it is about how I look. I tend to brush people off.

 

Yes.

 

hahahaha. You shouldn't worry about doing it "wrong." I've become a sort of master at acknowledging people's attractions. There's not wrong ways to do it, just insensitive ways to do it. And I can't imagine you actually being insensitive towards someone's feelings.

 

Seems to be the case when you don't reciprocate that feeling.

 

Right; if it is not mutual, all of a sudden you are cornered into having to hurt someone's feelings.

 

Not uncomfortable. It's just better if the feeling is mutual.

 

I feel rather terrible if someone wants to hump me since I would never hump anyone.

 

You know I've got a thing for you right?

 

I only feel uncomfortable when other men are attracted to me.

 

I don't know if someone is attracted to me unless they blatantly tell me. Until then, everyone is a bitch and a whore.

My plan is flawless.

 

I usually don't have this problem since I'm pretty oblivious. (And quite frankly, its a lot more convenient for me to be that way)

Although I do find it a little annoying when I do know people are attracted to me because if they say anything. Since I'm usually not interested at all, It's on me to turn them down.

This is a problem because I happen to be moderately attractive. *sigh*

Now if they were attracted to my mind, that would be totally different. I Always welcome that.