Difficulties with male friendships

If a girl told me to treat her as a guy - that would be a real mind-f**k for me. Don't do that. Men and women perceive things differently, especially everything regarding sex. It makes no sense to pretend otherwise.

In a case you have mentioned it can be as simple explanation as this: you're a girl and you talk about sex - that's enough for a male brain to get a positive signal from you before the meaning of your words even reaches the conscious mind. Just remember, there have been millions years of evolution to this response - it has nothing to do with pigs

 

Maybe find some guys who want to talk about other things? I dunno...that just seems rather odd to me, but then again, sex isn't something I talk about very often, and only then with a select few people (usually where I'm just educating them about something).

 

Yeah... We'll treat you as one of the guys until you start talking about sex. That's when we start to line you up as a possible sexual partner. Often we don't know about it until the fantasy is already underway.

 

I think it depends on the situation.
Me and 2 friends talked with a girl about sex a couple of weeks ago.
She had loads of questions and was very curious to get a males perspective on things.
I think that the fact that she has a boyfriend, and we know that she is very open about everything, changes the way this is interpreted by me and my friends, we don't see her as "prey" or anything.
Even if she didn't have a boyfriend I would not jump to the conclusion that she was hitting on us.

Note: this was in a "group" situation, this might be why they think you are hitting on them, if you are talking with them in private about this.

anyway... my 2 cents

 

because... if a girl sitting next to me commented on another girl as being hot as an attempt to connect with me, the fact that she herself is a girl takes precedence before her message. It's automatic. I might think something like "is she a lesbian" (wow, that's cool Beavis...), "is she comparing herself?", "is she hitting on me?". Why would I want to evaluate other girls when I got one sitting right here and talking to me in the first place?

If you explain all this before talking about sex, then maybe it would be possible to just talk.

 

Maybe he just really really wants you.

 

Then what advice (not that I really believe in the term 'advice) are you asking for from us? It sounds like you're functioning on a different plane of thinking than the majority of your friends. The best you can do is continue to explain yourself in a clear manner because...

That shows me you're not the sort of person to be misunderstood/misinterpreted for very long.

 

Wishful thinking on your male friends part. He'll get over it.

Ugh so are you male type people saying that when I talk about sex with my males friends they think I want to sleep with them? Because I don't. I just think its funny for the most part. You could ask me almost anything and i'd be just as candid.

And when I say a girl is f'n hot, it just means I think the girl is hot. I appreciate and admire beauty.

 

From my experience sometimes a person will talk about sex as a way of dropping hints that they might be sexually interested in you without being overly direct. It's probably the best ice breaker to a sexual relationship with that person.

 

Curse social ambiguity, curse it to hell.

 

Well there goes all of my friendships then. People are too tricky and I'm done with the whole lot of you. * blows a raspberry and goes off to live in a cave*