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So, I have both male and female friends of about an equal number. The problem I've encountered is that if I ever want to be buddy-buddy with a male friend, complications occur.
For example, A male ESFP friend that I have constantly talks about sex. So I reffered to some books that had sex positions as well as advice on that area and personally administered some advice on how to attract the opposite sex that my female friends are always talking about. When I mentioned these things, he told me I was
'acting funny'
When I asked why, he responded
'You seem like you're hitting on me'.
But that wasn't the intention, which I made clear to him and every male or female friend I have at the start of a friendship. I pointed out that if a mutal male friend we had named Colby told him the same thing, he wouldn't have responded like that. He saw the correlation and apologized.
Every time I talk to male friends, something like this happens, regardless of my advice telling them to 'treat me like a guy'. The logistics of that is if they are heterosexual males they would have no sexual tension with other heterosexual males. I do encounter a problem telling this to bisexual males, however. With females I do not receive the same sort of problem. Usually what will happen is that they will act shocked or appalled by the advice that is sexual in nature, because I have observed that the female gender does not seem to fixate on it as much as the male gender does.
How can I solve this problem?
For example, A male ESFP friend that I have constantly talks about sex. So I reffered to some books that had sex positions as well as advice on that area and personally administered some advice on how to attract the opposite sex that my female friends are always talking about. When I mentioned these things, he told me I was
'acting funny'
When I asked why, he responded
'You seem like you're hitting on me'.
But that wasn't the intention, which I made clear to him and every male or female friend I have at the start of a friendship. I pointed out that if a mutal male friend we had named Colby told him the same thing, he wouldn't have responded like that. He saw the correlation and apologized.
Every time I talk to male friends, something like this happens, regardless of my advice telling them to 'treat me like a guy'. The logistics of that is if they are heterosexual males they would have no sexual tension with other heterosexual males. I do encounter a problem telling this to bisexual males, however. With females I do not receive the same sort of problem. Usually what will happen is that they will act shocked or appalled by the advice that is sexual in nature, because I have observed that the female gender does not seem to fixate on it as much as the male gender does.
How can I solve this problem?
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