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  1. Zanshin

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    Any thoughts on how an INFJ could develop better Se?
     
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    You have a couple options.

    1. Play a game.

    One of the best ways I have found that Ni dominant people can develop Se is to play games that require tactics. Tactics are your ability to maneuver, usually while evading or engaging an opponent, in order to achieve some objective. In order to use tactics, you have to have an awareness of your environment, where you are located within it, what movements are open to you, and how your opponent reacts to your movements.

    It could be physical games like soccer, basketball, paintball, etc. These games push you to be aware of where you and others are within an environment, where you are moving, and reactions as a result of sudden changes. It could be also be mental games like chess. Chess requires that you observe a board and keep all the pieces in mind, and so forth.

    2. Make something.

    Painting, sculpturing, building, cooking, etc. are all tasks in which you mold the physical world into something of utility. There is a reason SPs are called "Artisans". If you mimic the behavior, you can develop the process.
     
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    Cool sounds good. The first part I have down pretty well because I played football in high school and still play some now when I get the chance. The thing with that is it's more of a mode I go into and just get out of then. I'm trying to incorporate it more into my life in general. I suppose I could try making stuff as well and maybe repetition of these two things will help to strengthen it and I'll find myself using it more.

    Any more input is welcome.
     
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    Ugh, no wonder my Se is so low, I detest all of those things!!! Blegh...
     
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    I agree with Satya's suggestions, especially playing real time sports with lots of people to keep track of. That will force your Se to take over and push your other functions aside.

    Here is a fairly good source of information on Extraverted Sensation.

    Se focuses on the here and now. It focuses on the immediate senses - sight, sound, smell, taste, and especially touch. The best way to develop Se is to focus on your senses, as they are in the present without considering the implications or connections to the future, the past, or associations to anything else. Se is the ability to be fully in the moment.

    Drawing, painting, dancing, music, and a whole variety of other artistic endeavors that involve non-verbal channels are great ways to help develop Se. Sensual massage, and martial arts sparring are also great for developing Se. Archery may be the single best Se builder available, with target shooting running a close second. The most important part of this approach is to make sure you are doing something that overwhelms you and requires you to 'not think' to succeed, forcing you to stay in the moment and focus on what is before you and around you. It has to be something you 'just do' so that your Se takes the dominant role in the activity. If you can do the activity with your Ni, Fe, or Ti, you'll likely use them first and develop your Se much less than you would otherwise.

    This might seem like a monumental task, but developing Se is the best way to help gain control over your Ni, which is a constant source of distraction and temptation to get lost in one's imagination. This is a highly recommended ability for all INFJs.

    Tactics and strategy are the realms of Introverted Thinking, which is the partner of Se for INFJs. Playing strategy games will also help develop Se, but only by proxy. You'll be developing your Ti much more. Other ways to develop Ti include tinkering with puzzles and games that involve solving like sudoku. Developing Ti is also a very good thing for INFJs to do as it helps us gain more conscious control over our Fe and be more rational when things are not in alignment with our ideals, and even help us think our way out of situations that overwhelm us. Craftsmanship of any sort can help with the Ti/Se pair a great deal, especially once you gain enough proficiency with a craft that you don't have to 'think' about it, but can simply get lost in the act of creating.

    In both of these cases, Se and Ti are right brained functions. You'll know you're using them more dominantly when you lose all track of time. The right side of the brain has no clock. If you're still aware of the time, you're still using your Ni and/or Fe more dominantly than not.
     
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    I cannot emphasize enough how true this is. 5 star post by the way.

    Just to add to this, in psychology it is called flow.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flow_(psychology)

    It is a state of complete focus. I think every INFJ should have a least a half a dozen flow activities in which they can immerse themselves and escape the intensity of their feelings. That "in the zone" feeling is a large part of the reason INFJs tend to envy SPs. Getting lost in what you are doing at the moment and just enjoying the thrill of doing it just seems so much simpler and tantalzing.
     
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    Ya it does, and this would be my motivation for attempting to improve my Se. I'd like to be able to just enjoy the moment to it's fullest with nothing else on my mind. It's simpler and more healthy. But I definitely don't want to abandon my Ni by any means. Just be able to have Se show up more and enjoy the moments in life to their fullest.

    Thanks for that post Von btw. Interesting page with detailed descriptions of the cognitive functions.
     
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    I tell you another thing that can awaken ol' Se: Easy, mindless paper work with the freedom to jam out on Nirvana at a decent decibel:hippie:.

    WOOT! *Rawk on*
     
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    Oh, don't forget sex! You can't spell Sex without Se.
     

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