[INFJ] Define the meaning of Boundaries
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Let’s say your boundaries include putting dirty dishes on the left side of the sink and the right side is an empty space
I think to myself why not put dishes on the right side
Boundary setter just says ‘because’
That kind of statement creates dictatorships
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That’s not a personal boundary. That’s a preference.
Oh, it’s a boundary to some people
That was a personal example
Have enough of those OCD preferences crossed and that person will take that as-if you’re crossing boundaries
That was a personal example
Have enough of those OCD preferences crossed and that person will take that as-if you’re crossing boundaries
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But to be fair, I see what @ClevelandINTP is saying.
Some people misuse the term 'boundaries' to get their way and avoid compromise. They use it as a way to justify their selfishness or solipsism.
The tragedy is that the people who do this are often in dire need of establishing their own boundaries, and so they're hyper sensitive about it and go on to make outrageous demands from a position of anxious insecurity.
Boundaries are things most people go throughout life following without any contemplation about what’s behind them
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Yeah that whole thing
I’m done with feminism
You can’t say you’re for everybody and call it feminism
It’s humanism
I’m done with feminism
You can’t say you’re for everybody and call it feminism
It’s humanism
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Finally, now you both agree on something.
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Could have asked. But you wanted to be snarky instead.
I just mean historically as humans, we collectively are boundary minded.
They have aided us in our progress. But you know, really it's more to do with the creation and destruction of boundaries as a whole.
Something about that process is important, it's pretty zen I suppose.
I made myself a little system here 
Why would I do something I don't want to do/allow something to happen that I don't like?
1) It costs me little, compared to what the other party gain from it.
Will be a overstepped if it's exploded over time.
2) I'm negotiating(give to get) or compromising.
Is overstepped if expectations of mutual fairness are not met, over time
3) I fear the consequences it I don't do/allow it.
This is already overstepping my boundaries
4) Some fucked up need my unconsciousness decided I should go for.
Unconsciousness overstepped my boundarie
Why would I do something I don't want to do/allow something to happen that I don't like? 1) It costs me little, compared to what the other party gain from it.
Will be a overstepped if it's exploded over time.
2) I'm negotiating(give to get) or compromising.
Is overstepped if expectations of mutual fairness are not met, over time
3) I fear the consequences it I don't do/allow it.
This is already overstepping my boundaries
4) Some fucked up need my unconsciousness decided I should go for.
Unconsciousness overstepped my boundarie
See this is where we get into it. I was being playful, and I didn’t understand it apparently. So I could have asked, but I wasn’t being snarky by any means
I love the build up tear it down process
So that makes two of us
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You're always seriously playful, I'm always playfully serious
God that’s so true
Big breakthrough here, Wyote. Lifechanging
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