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    Unfortunately I never had a chance to date someone with the same personality type; but if I had the opportunity, I would definitely most likely date an INFJ! :)

    I always wondered how that would be!
     
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    This already is a dating site.

    Rules:

    1. Being an INFJ means you have trust issues. That's why every member must pretend this isn't a dating site, even if you aren't an INFJ.
    2. Most of the action on this site happens in private conversations.
    3. You can start the mating rituals by posting an introduction thread, followed by posting your picture in the member photos thread.
    3.1. At this point one of the regulars might already start a conversation with you about some not really private thing. It's just better to talk privately because INFJs hate so much how every thread is derailed, right? However, if your inbox is still empty, then it's better to start a support thread describing an emotional issue. Soon enough someone with the same experiences will rush to support you privately. Sure, they've probably mentioned the same issues elsewhere on the site, but it's better to provide support privately so that other people won't misunderstand all the kiss emojis. You both know that it's just about being empathetic and not about looking for love, even though the relationship status has been clarified in the second message.
    3.2. Start communicating on other platforms. Now you may start the relationship. It's time to let everyone know so that others on the site won't bother trying anything.

    Am I cynical or just joking? I don't even know myself, but a lot of people do treat this as a dating site while pretending not to. :hearteyecat::hearteyecat::hearteyes::kissingheart::kissingheart:
    Note: in case someone reading this feels this is a jab at them, I didn't write this thinking of anyone in particular. It's just what I believe to be a common pattern based on seeing how new and old single members generally interact.
     
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    LOOOOL HAHAHAHA
     
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    You're not supposed to give away the secret cult ideologies. Shhhh.
     
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    Damn. I’ve been doing my approach here wrong this whole entire time for the last 8 months. FACK.

    Jokes aside though, I barely get messages hahahaha. I think the only time I messaged people first was newbies just welcoming them and saying hi, but never have romantic intentions.

    But you’re so right hahaha, some people do treat this as a dating site even if they don’t admit to hahaha!

    Edit: I forgot, but I may have had almost a romantic thing going on, but saw him too much as a friend and I wasn’t to go proceed with it. It felt awkward and just kept having doubts in my mind.

    I’ll be honest, I can’t see myself being romantically involved with someone on here hahaha. I’ve done my part in a previous long distance relationship, and I’m done with that chapter in my life. MAYBE just MAYBE some lucky guy on here will change my mind about it. Who knows.
     
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    You fucked up big time. I don't think you'll recover tbh.
     
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    I know :sob::sob::sob: I wasted my chance and now I’ll be the forum lady with 15 wiener dogs
     
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    That’s a ton of wieners
     
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    LMFAO yes :grin::grin:
     
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    EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE the best starter kit!! OHMIGAH :sob::sob::sob::hearteyes:
     
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    I want! (Except a different breed of puppies.)

    LOL. I'd rather have people meet here than on gross Tinder. Tinder is a recipe for failure.
    At least here people talk about things and stuff. It's the old-fashioned approach of getting to know each other, then have sex. LOL LOL!
    Good luck to all of you.

    I'll be over here with my bucket of puppies.


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    About the original focus of the thread:

    It seems ideal to date another INFJ. I've always felt so "not the same as others" (and by that I mean I know I'm different and accept it) that I imagined it would be safer to date another person with the same astrological sign and MBTI type. However, I don't like myself enough to date someone that similar. Someone a little different motivates us to improve, and if we were too similar I'd worry our personal growth would stagnate. I don't think mature/healthy INFJs would necessarily do this, but I just imagine it could be a problem. Plus, to be honest, the fact that my SO understands me, but still doesn't always quite get me is attractive because I have more private space in my head, and I get to be a little mysterious. I think he likes that, and I'm not in a rush to change it, either.
     
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    Heck yuss, that infj-intj mystery pretzel combo
     
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    Yes! That!!
     
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    YES THIS. Although dating an INFJ would be nice as we would have that mutual understanding especially relating to one other when it comes to that alienation and feeling off place from others—I always worried and feared if there was going to be this certain stagnation—but I suppose it depends on the couple too!

    I would like to date an ENTP—heard it’s one of our most natural types to be with when it comes to relationships and friendships. Never been with an ENTP man but I have a couple of friends that are this type and we get along so well.

    Absolutely agree!! Never am I getting on dating apps. Yuck.


    LMFAOOOO
     
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    @JennyDaniella - Yes, definitely. It is an "individual to the couple" scenario. I'm not sure two immature (in terms of growth, not age) or unhealthy INFJs would do well together, but healthy people would. On the other hand, imagine how comforting it would be to relate that deeply to someone as a teenager! It would really help people get through those (often) painful years to have a kindred soul by their sides. :)
     
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    Absolutely!! :)
     
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