Have you tried dating others of your personality type? I don't think I've ever met a male INFJ. With the way I am, I know I need a very intelligent INFJ, if I were to have a dating partner. I already feel hugely outside of society and my career will continually push me even further outside. I've gotten it in my head a sensitive & gentle man who loves as deeply as I do, would be a welcome place to rest when I get tired of always having to be on point. Seems like most people take the INFJ for granted, and don't realize what a tremendous gift we can give.
Dating other INFJs?
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I know hardly any other INFJ's. Where are they? I have a downstairs neighbour who's a bonafide ENFJ, and I tells ya--I really wish she was an INFJ. Not that I would date her...I'm a straight female.
Apparently Jamie Foxx is an INFJ. I would definitely date him. But he lives in another country, alas.
Apparently Jamie Foxx is an INFJ. I would definitely date him. But he lives in another country, alas.
We're probably all sitting at a table in a corner hoping the other has the courage to take the initiative. >.>
If I were to choose a type, I would probably say INFJ would be my ideal partner. However, so far there has never been mutual attraction between myself and another INFJ. It has always been one side or the other not interested. The last one became my very best friend over the course of a very short time, and then school ended, and she went back home.
All good things come to those who wait, but what if both parties involved take that to heart?
If I were to choose a type, I would probably say INFJ would be my ideal partner. However, so far there has never been mutual attraction between myself and another INFJ. It has always been one side or the other not interested. The last one became my very best friend over the course of a very short time, and then school ended, and she went back home.
All good things come to those who wait, but what if both parties involved take that to heart?
I'm not too sure about INFJ - INFJ. I mean, I'd be willing to give it a go if I met someone...but I think someone a little more different to me would be better. I've said it before, I'll say it again....too pissed off INFJs in a relationship? Some scary shit, man!
(People are more than just their MBTI type.
MBTI =/= personal investigation.)
I have and our relationship was radiant.
MBTI =/= personal investigation.)
I have and our relationship was radiant.
Very draining. Two INFJ's who have very complex attitudes can be draining on one another. Now, it's a 50/50 chance that the relationship will be extremely loyal, loving, and caring, or depressing, draining, and lots of crying. So, meh, I don't know. Date at your own risk, I suppose.
No way. I prefer dating thinkers, they bring a lot to the table and it helps you grow. I know if my mom and brothers were not thinkers I would be so impulsive it would be disgusting [it just FEELS RIGHT kind of deal. Yeah no thanks, I prefer to use my brain now.]
-Anna
-Anna
no way for me man.. I hate ISTJs haha. no offense to the ISTJs on the forums but I just dont get along very well with them IRL
THATS NOT NARROW MINDED! NOT AT ALLLL.
Or biased.
Nah.
[sidenote: dating ISTJ. Highly recommended, lawlz]
-Anna
I'm married now, so not dating anymore, but I can't imagine dating or not dating someone just based on their MBTI type. I mean, for me, hypothetically speaking there's really only a couple important factors to consider: is there chemistry? do we enjoy each others company?
If the answer is yes, why wouldn't I?
If the answer is yes, why wouldn't I?
I only know a few INFJs in person, and only one of them is male. This male is dating a close friend of mine. Considering the circumstances, I haven't had the opportunity to ever give serious thought to dating another INFJ. I suspect I would be reluctant to, however, as I think I would prefer a partner with complementary differences to me in their mode of being. I find that when two people are very similar in the way they function at a basic level, their flaws tend to amplify in a relationship situation. That said, I wouldn't rule out that an INFJ-INFJ match including myself could work; I would evaluate this on a case-by-case basis.
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Thats a shame, I actually dated a really cute istj girl one time, as "typical" of a geek girl you could get, but in a really kind of classy sexy way. She was always in shape, had a great and creative job in graphic design, worked in marketing and all that, very bright.We had a lot of fun together.
I did date an INFJ female once, she knew about MBTI before I ever met her so, she had already done her own research so I assume she was, and in my experience, she certainly was. We shared a very deep clarity of perception on things and saw things in a similar way, maybe we didn't share all the same beliefs about those things, but we did it the same way, the same neurotic tidal wave of connection making and boiling everything down and over thinking everything to death all of which produces that sense of fear/need of something genuine to cling to for stability. She was trusting so she opened up easily and the connection grew quickly. We had really great physical chemistry too, I will spare all the gooey sexual details but it was like a porno movie... My firm belief is that INFJs in general make excellent lovers this is based on my discussions, interactions and personal experiences with women who I have slept with. Its that need to please the other person as primary I think. Why wouldn't people love that? People in general are selfish.
I think it could have really worked out with her if I didnt screw it up, we were similar in a lot of ways we did things, but I am unscrupulous and a villain while she was a genuinely good person, I think I would have eventually brought her down, which would have been a pity so theres that lol.
I think it could have really worked out with her if I didnt screw it up, we were similar in a lot of ways we did things, but I am unscrupulous and a villain while she was a genuinely good person, I think I would have eventually brought her down, which would have been a pity so theres that lol.