Dating a INTJ

I'm not trying to disregard the rest of your post, but you do realize that falling in love happens only after you experience the uncertainty of putting yourself out there, right?

Just go and have fun. Yes, she is probably interested thus far if she has agreed to go out on a date with you. You need to feel each other out now and see if you're still interested even after you get to know each other better.

 

I think Dragon pretty much summed it up. INFJs can be analytical just like INTJs, but they take the conclusions much more personally.

 

Listen up, you're dating a live human being and not a type! Things that are not supposed can and most definatelly will happen.

People allocating their personal time for you is usually a good indicator of interest.

If you're sure that she's INFJ - you might find some good insights here.

As for the rest... you will probably be eveluated in the first 10 minutes or so and she will "know" how/if relationship will continue. Personal space is not an issue for myself, but social space is - paritcipating in joint activities and events is important. That is my common problem with INTJs - they care very little of it.

 

I agree with dragon. I personally would like to be a perfect person, moral, loving, logical and good at everything. In fact I often strive to reach this level. This is important because there might be two ways that I might take criticism personally. One might be because it spotlights imperfections that I would rather not have especially if it's not constructive criticism. And secondly I might take it personally if I misinterpret it as something which has a negative bearing on our relationship.

Feelers are different in that they're more likely to pick on subtle cues which indicate things such as how one relates to each other and this is different from an INTJ who might be more prone to ignore these considerations. It does take some getting used to.

Generally though, I can see an INTJ and INFJ naturally meshing in a relationship due to the same shared mode of perception. An INFJ loves in a point where you as an INTJ open up to him or her. Again this is a natural dynamic between the types, INTJs need to eventually let the INFJ into their circle of trust, likewise as an INFJ would eventually do the same. I really don't think you have to do too much aside from what I mentioned in the first and second paragraphs.

 

She will almost certainly have you figured out within a few minutes of meeting her.

INFJ's are notoriously good at reading people, we are also nororiously difficult to read, this is because we internalise everything, so it may be very difficult to tell. But I would think the fact that she has agreed to a date with you is a good start, so she obviously likes you now. If the date goes well she should agree to another one. I don't think you need any sign other than that

She'll love you for that, don't change it. Try and be anything other than who you are and she will be on to you instantly.

Women like confidence. I have dated another INFJ myself and she said the thing that attracted her to me the most was my confidence. I can't say for sure if she will find what you describe unnattractive so I would probably just not mention it, at least the first few dates, maybe never.

It is essential to invade someones personal space if you want them to know you like them. move a little closer to her than would normally be considered acceptable, if she doesn't move away, or even better if she moves in even closer, I think that is a good sign that she likes you

Don't say that

Me too, and I'm an INFJ. that hopefully means she does too. but don't rush her or you may scare her off

 

Sounds like a good a reason as any, go for it

That's the Te we all love, know and love

InXjs are very similar in this aspect, infjs do 'know' about a person because they can use their 'feeling' to get a feel for them, and then use their auxiliary te to make sure it seems possible

She's a person with stuff to do, you probably won't have a lot of time to just 'do stuff' either, you gotta make it work.

Typical flirting and such, I would assume, and a willingness to share feelings and ideas with you.

I like it, can't say that for all infjs though. One word of caution is that infjs are 'closed', we are suspicious of other people at times and...well..yeah.

Depends on the infj, generally in these types of relationships (which have worked btw), the infj is the more needier one. Protip: You've alerady scored the date, if she doesn't like you, then move on. It really need not be this serious.

Well, generally, infjs and intjs feel the same about this issue (This information is compiled from intj and cross referenced with this site )

 

You may be right, i'm not sure if I've ever met an INTJ so I can't comment on that. But I can figure some people out literally within 5 seconds of seeing them. They don't even have to speak sometimes. It can be from just a look. This works especially well with people who have negative intentions. I find it takes a little longer to figure out nice people

 

Maybe I'm just feeling sentimental this morning.. I'm happy for you PhantomX!