Conflict solving is a very important skill to obtain. Once discovered, it can be used in everyday life for nearly any situation and is apt to make things run a lot smoother.
Recently I have discovered that conflict solving is extremely difficult with INFJs. I think it's due to an inability to state a problem and solution in a short, precise, straight to the point manner. I have also observed that they will go on and on about a problem for much too long, when the explanation could have been said in few words. For me this is confusing. I do not understand how to cut out the fluff of an explanation. Also, a lot of things I think are 'problems' with INFJs, they state that they were just pointing something out or trying to aid me in my own personal growth. This confuses me. Why would one state that something is a problem, but instead of solving it, resolve to drop it because 'it was just a suggestion'. My usual four step problem does not work with INFJs.
1. State the conflict in a short, technical, straight to the point way. Use one or three sentences; condense it.
2. State possible resolutions to the conflict in clear points, such as a bullet list.
3. Discuss together the conflict and possible resolutions and come to a resolution.
4. If a resolution cannot be made, bring in a mediator and start at step 1.
How would you suggest I go about resolving conflicts? What about this method seems ineffective?
Recently I have discovered that conflict solving is extremely difficult with INFJs. I think it's due to an inability to state a problem and solution in a short, precise, straight to the point manner. I have also observed that they will go on and on about a problem for much too long, when the explanation could have been said in few words. For me this is confusing. I do not understand how to cut out the fluff of an explanation. Also, a lot of things I think are 'problems' with INFJs, they state that they were just pointing something out or trying to aid me in my own personal growth. This confuses me. Why would one state that something is a problem, but instead of solving it, resolve to drop it because 'it was just a suggestion'. My usual four step problem does not work with INFJs.
1. State the conflict in a short, technical, straight to the point way. Use one or three sentences; condense it.
2. State possible resolutions to the conflict in clear points, such as a bullet list.
3. Discuss together the conflict and possible resolutions and come to a resolution.
4. If a resolution cannot be made, bring in a mediator and start at step 1.
How would you suggest I go about resolving conflicts? What about this method seems ineffective?