becoming emotionaly addicted?

I can really relate to this. I actually can take it one step further. In the past I feel like I would need to check in to see if they were still thinking positively towards me.

I actually do it here as well. If people dont post a response or do post a response I would read to much into it.

I think it is an NF thing to be sensitive, more than the other types. I am trying to get to a place where I am immune to the praise and critism that others give me. I think if I am super sensitive to the praise dont get me started about critism. I get horrified with critism. This is not good. I dont want to be on an emotionaly roller coaster. What if someone is having a bad day and it has nothing to do with me? I am completely at the whim of other peoples moods.

So I am determined to get better at this. I want to set the barometer for my day and not let other people do it.

Please don't be ashamed at all. I really like reading your posts. This is why the forum was created.

 

Well I don't know if I would call it addiction, but I could probably relate to that.. if I had ever received more than an occasional backhanded compliment.

 

This is me completely.

 

Solar Empath, I like your name.

Morgan, you're not alone. I feel like a puppy with my tongue hanging out getting it's belly rubbed, and wanting more and more petting. When I realize what I'm doing, how I'm pushing people to keep feeding me emotionally, I have to make myself stop. Just because I feel ashamed of myself for feeling so happy from the thoughts of another. There's always a down-side too, which is when the 'belly-rubs' are all over, there's sadness, and I can feel more alone after compliments, when they stop coming. So, I try hard to tone myself down, reminding myself that it's not other people that need to give me validation, but myself.

Thanks for verbalizing this. I had never really thought about it!

 

Agree. Same here.

 

I meant in real life from friends. People in my area are pretty reserved, it's considered inauthentic to give compliments to men I think.

I could definitely see this though. I know that I sometimes yearn for compliments like an addict in withdrawal.

 

edit: Actually, thinking more about it, I like compliments, but I don't really need them to be happy. They are just the icing on the cake. At times, though, especially when they are excessive, I can get embarrassed and skeptical of the giver's sincerity.