I'm more like you in this regard @
niffer . I never used to think of myself this way but I didn't really understand myself as well as I thought I did then.
I'm especially guilty of this during conflict situations. I'm absolutely horrible at them because of it.
I get kind of indignant about this sort of thing sometimes actually. I don't feel like it is fair of other people to tell me that I need to put my feelings aside as often as I get told that. I suppose I should elaborate and say that my indignance usually just means that I want them to at least acknowledge that I have a right to feel how I feel, because so much of my life I was made to feel like I did not. So often it just sounds like someone telling me that my own emotional needs are less important than theirs and that I need to constantly work hard to accommodate others emotional needs instead of the other way around. But I also realize the importance of understanding the different communicative styles between people for best potential harmony. I just don't know how to know where that line is, if I am being emotionally taken advantage of and trampled over or if I'm the one doing the trampling.
Aaaand this is why I'm hoping to get into counseling soon. Life long problem. -_-