I was thinking about this this morning.
You are not born with a personality type, it is a learned thing, it's cultural. In the case of INFJ, a habit to help (often to your detriment) others, shyness, extreme intuition etc. seems to fit itself to a particular set of neuroses.
For instance. I have a very high "N" and a low "F". The reason I have a low "F" is because I feel very much for others but am not actually attuned to my own emotions (won't get upset over sad films, soap-operas etc. but will empathise to the extreme with real people who I meet).
I used to be very, very shy and would literally not speak but I would watch others in the group speak together. I am a very good judge of character and can often predict what others will do/say and whether or not they can be trusted etc. before I've met them (ie. seeing them across a room) It's my belief that this came from literally studying others because I was essentially external within social groups even if I was there as "part of" that group and through that I intuitively read others.
The feeling side, my fear to hurt others and my need to protect, may come from this intuitive learning. I can not only immeditaely read others but feel so "in sync" with them that I can sometimes literally "feel" they're insecurities. I can always explain to friends why someone has been impolite or unfair to them - ie. this person said this to you because they were feeling this - it's a reaction to their own issues and actually has nothing to do with you at all.
As for the "I" and "J", I think I've learned this from my mother who is introverted and "a doer". We both feel guilt if we don't "do" and need to be working all the time to have things finished - can't feel satisfied unless they are finished.
What do you reckon? A lot of profiles of the INFJ say they can literally become physically ill under stress. I am ill all the time through stress - particularly when it involves the feelings of others or when I'm stuck in a situation where there are social politics and I get angry that other people can't just be nice to each other and have to be out for themselves. Do you think this physical reaction may be because INFJs have learned their personality through a set of neuroses and are sensitive to stress?
Just a thought....
You are not born with a personality type, it is a learned thing, it's cultural. In the case of INFJ, a habit to help (often to your detriment) others, shyness, extreme intuition etc. seems to fit itself to a particular set of neuroses.
For instance. I have a very high "N" and a low "F". The reason I have a low "F" is because I feel very much for others but am not actually attuned to my own emotions (won't get upset over sad films, soap-operas etc. but will empathise to the extreme with real people who I meet).
I used to be very, very shy and would literally not speak but I would watch others in the group speak together. I am a very good judge of character and can often predict what others will do/say and whether or not they can be trusted etc. before I've met them (ie. seeing them across a room) It's my belief that this came from literally studying others because I was essentially external within social groups even if I was there as "part of" that group and through that I intuitively read others.
The feeling side, my fear to hurt others and my need to protect, may come from this intuitive learning. I can not only immeditaely read others but feel so "in sync" with them that I can sometimes literally "feel" they're insecurities. I can always explain to friends why someone has been impolite or unfair to them - ie. this person said this to you because they were feeling this - it's a reaction to their own issues and actually has nothing to do with you at all.
As for the "I" and "J", I think I've learned this from my mother who is introverted and "a doer". We both feel guilt if we don't "do" and need to be working all the time to have things finished - can't feel satisfied unless they are finished.
What do you reckon? A lot of profiles of the INFJ say they can literally become physically ill under stress. I am ill all the time through stress - particularly when it involves the feelings of others or when I'm stuck in a situation where there are social politics and I get angry that other people can't just be nice to each other and have to be out for themselves. Do you think this physical reaction may be because INFJs have learned their personality through a set of neuroses and are sensitive to stress?
Just a thought....