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Here's How Attraction Works

If I'm to be serious, good looks for a guy will give you an edge only initially. Don't give into the belief that it's about looks.
Maybe for long-term relationships, but for hook-ups your advantage is exponentially more great. I've seen Tinder.
 
You know, Tinder can be convenient. For me, it's like ordering delivery but for orgasms.
Oh, I understand. What you're saying is that you - sir - have no problem, and even if you did, you can at least objectify the experience as to emotionally distance yourself from it, if that meant anything.
 
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The answer is always how much do you want to make BABIES with someone.
 
The answer is always how much do you want to make BABIES with someone.
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You probably are awesome but it wouldn't make her choice incorrect.

Not dating someone you aren't attracted to or that you don't want to date for whatever reason doesn't make someone wrong or ignorant or shallow (which is often what people are accused of for rejecting someone.) You can't force chemistry.

The whiny good guy (in the comic) is just an issue. It would be nice if people would just respect the choices of other people instead of villifying women for not doing what they want them to do.

I see where you are going, but careful.... that same "respect" can be handled in both ways. Both genders have "privileges" that come in this evil game. Neither of which are fair. In the case of the female she gets to choose! she has the POWER of that choice. don't ever for a moment believe that there is not a huge advantage to that one singular fact. Also in general terms the female does not have the burden of performance that the male has. Nor can she truly comprehended it. That is what is sad about that little comic image.

and it goes both ways. A man cannot understand the burden of beauty that a woman is judged by and has to maintain. nor can he understand the pain that occurs when that Wall comes and her SMV and influence over males is declining by the day.

Both genders would do well to give empathy to the other for there is only ONE TRUTH in this world.

we are all united in suffering.

This game we or nature has created is evil, and this world is a dark place and as always we ASK THE WRONG QUESTIONS!
Empathy! is the answer. WHY?
cause that is the opposite of the Narcissistic demons, that we are surrounded by today.
Narcissists are NOT HUMANS. they are demons in skin suits.

An empathetic woman would not tell a man............

"the right one doesn't have to try"



basically 2 people LYING to each other.
 
I see where you are going, but careful.... that same "respect" can be handled in both ways. Both genders have "privileges" that come in this evil game. Neither of which are fair. In the case of the female she gets to choose! she has the POWER of that choice. don't ever for a moment believe that there is not a huge advantage to that one singular fact. Also in general terms the female does not have the burden of performance that the male has. Nor can she truly comprehended it. That is what is sad about that little comic image.

and it goes both ways. A man cannot understand the burden of beauty that a woman is judged by and has to maintain. nor can he understand the pain that occurs when that Wall comes and her SMV and influence over males is declining by the day.

Both genders would do well to give empathy to the other for there is only ONE TRUTH in this world.

we are all united in suffering.

This game we or nature has created is evil, and this world is a dark place and as always we ASK THE WRONG QUESTIONS!
Empathy! is the answer. WHY?
cause that is the opposite of the Narcissistic demons, that we are surrounded by today.
Narcissists are NOT HUMANS. they are demons in skin suits.

An empathetic woman would not tell a man............

"the right one doesn't have to try"



basically 2 people LYING to each other.
In your opinion what would an empathetic woman do when a man she is not interested in continues to make advances?
 
In your opinion what would an empathetic woman do when a man she is not interested in continues to make advances?

Act with honest Intention, and not in a self serving manner.

First and foremost she should NOT accept
ANY attention, gifts, emotional support, resources, time, devotion friendship etc from this man.

I think in these cases there are 2 types of dishonesty occurring in the classic "non romantic" relationship.
on the Males part he is "agreeing" to be around (orbiter) and ask nothing (love) from the female under the false mask that he is "safe" and will never take his shoot. This is a lie cause he just waiting and hoping that "on that ONE Special day! she will see how amazing he is and love him" Hes lying to her.
He is giving FREE MILK and telling her she does not have to buy the cow. ( obviously the male is being foolishly romantic and fairy tale like)

ON her side she is lying too, willing to benefit from his "hope" and accept all his attention knowing that she will never be his girlfriend nor love him. AND THIS IS IF she is a GOOD woman!!! She will "feel bad" like the woman in the comic, arms crossed and unconformable in saying NO to this man who is trying so hard to win her affection but he simply is unworthy regardless of what he does. She will say "I dont know...hes great but I just dont know"

The narcissistic Demon would not only welcome this.....she would Foster this! create this situation and give just enough crumbs to get more and more and more to suck him dry. mind you the narcissistic demon would have multiple males in this web all at the same time. using multiple strategies to create unhealthy attachment slowly damage the very soul of the man. emotional psychological torture.


Now here is where I will take some shade.
I put this on women and here is why.
Males are going to try and try and try, they will work themselves to death hell that is why they are men. They have the curse of having to PROVE themselves in every aspect of life, and especially in love. So I do not fault them for the effort (as stupid as I believe it is) Thus if the male has the burden of trying and proving himself. I see the empathetic female as having the burden of #1 honesty #2 being strong enough to NOT benefit from the males effort SINCE he is not desirable.

2 burdens

The burden of pursuit & proving
Vs
The burden of accepting & denial

They both suck, cause its a shit game.
 
Both genders have "privileges" that come in this evil game. Neither of which are fair. In the case of the female she gets to choose! she has the POWER of that choice. don't ever for a moment believe that there is not a huge advantage to that one singular fact.

I put this on women and here is why.
Males are going to try and try and try, they will work themselves to death hell that is why they are men. They have the curse of having to PROVE themselves in every aspect of life, and especially in love.

Are you saying men in general really have no choice? It's all the woman's responsibility whether the relationship moves forward or ends? And she better know right away or else she's stringing him along. This unfairly puts the owness on women, and if it were true, there would be no broken-hearted dumped women who were told they weren't the right one or told that they tried to hard (or not enough). It also seems to imply that men in general have no standards and are ready, willing, and able to be in a relationship as soon as the woman makes up her mind. Not true.

Also in general terms the female does not have the burden of performance that the male has. Nor can she truly comprehended it. That is what is sad about that little comic image.

and it goes both ways. A man cannot understand the burden of beauty that a woman is judged by and has to maintain.

Really? No woman has ever felt she's had to prove herself? No man can understand what it's like to be judged for the way he looks? These seem like universal things everyone can relate to. The degree to which an individual is affected by what other people think differs, but the fact is we all have an ego, we all feel the need to prove our worth in some way and we all want to appeal physically to others. Neither "burden" is carried solely by one gender.

An empathetic woman would not tell a man............

"the right one doesn't have to try"

basically 2 people LYING to each other.

It's not the most empathetic response, but it's a comic, the point is to convey meaning with a picture and a few words. I actually don't see it as lying, it's harsh, but not a lie - you're not the right one, stop trying. There are way more ambiguous break-up lines than that. The more empathetic thing would be to acknowledge his efforts and be honest about it not working. If the benefits don't outweigh the effort, then you are trying too hard.

Both genders would do well to give empathy to the other for there is only ONE TRUTH in this world.

we are all united in suffering.

I agree, we all suffer, and everyone would benefit in general from having more empathy for one another. A good way to do that in romantic relationships is to stop expecting the opposite sex to fill these overgeneralized, stereotyped roles. Find common ground, bond over that, stop focusing so much on your gender's perceived role and fill the role you can and that is needed for your relationship to thrive.
 
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and it goes both ways. A man cannot understand the burden of beauty that a woman is judged by and has to maintain. nor can he understand the pain that occurs when that Wall comes and her SMV and influence over males is declining by the day.
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Women are not "things with a depreciating value" This is another facet of incel ideology. The idea of a women's "value" and how her vagina gets used up on the Chad cock carousel and her vagina becomes loose and undersirable

Seriously. I think these men are really emotionally retarded because they lack basic socialition skills. That part where you learn to accept disappoint, to see people not things to be used because you want, and to learn to deal with their own issues without projecting them onto others.
 
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Women are not "things with a depreciating value" This is another facet of incel ideology. The idea of a women's "value" and how her vagina gets used up on the Chad cock carousel and her vagina becomes loose and undersirable

Seriously. I think these men are really emotionally retarded because they lack basic socialition skills. That part where you learn to accept disappoint, to see people not things to be used because you want, and to learn to deal with their own issues without projecting them onto others.
Considering that you are a 10/10, I’m not sure you really get how bad it is for the rest of us out here.