Recent content by Nat

As an INFJ, I now just expect to be rejected or to have people leave me after the initial mystery has worn off (very quickly). Sometimes, I sense that people think I'm too quiet, or too intense or just weird because I have lots of different interests. Does anyone else just expect negative...

How do you know what type they are without giving a Myers-Briggs test? How would I recognise the right match for an INFJ?

I get this. I'm told I'm standoffish or cold when I'm just looking around to see where I fit into the scheme of things and who is who. I can't understand anyone who would jump into a pool of water with both feet without knowing how deep the water is first. That's how I view new social...

Tamagochi - See your (4). I,too, have a problem with people thinking nice is a perjorative. No one likes someone who kisses arse and is always agreeable but I find that nice is often a description of people who have been raised with manners and to be considerate. That's why I hate dating...

I would've thought that having empathy for other people would be a good foundation for a relationship but I find while men love talking to me, they avoid me for romantic relationships. The rare ones that don't abandon me just want to be friends. Why do men hate INFJ girls? Is it because we...

No. What is meaningless to an INFJ is just meaningless. Wasn't Hitler INFJ? That's that side coming out I guess.

Yeah, someone make the "too intelligent" thing a poll question. I have never got either and neither have my friends. What do the other types of girls talk about that keeps the guys enthralled? You have stuff in common with guys, like you're interested in politics, current affairs, sport...

Is there a link between INFJ traits and BPD? Anyone know?

I find that because I'm an INFJ, I'm good at caring for other people and making them feel comfortable. That is, I'm good at friendship and for that reason, they don't feel the spark or requisite romantic tension and then don't see me as a romantic prospect. I eventually feel resentful if I'm...

INFJS - where should I go to meet my match?

Do you guys ever feel that it is particularly difficult for INFJs to connect with other people in the romantic sense? Maybe it's just me but because I have a lot of different interests and I'm kind to even strangers (the confidant parts are strong, I guess) I tend to get friend zoned a lot...

I have learned to love myself. It makes no difference to my dateability.I have a lot to offer. I know that I'm better than average in looks, intellect, personality and empathy. I have lots of hobbies and interests. Yet men still reject me or worse, they want to use me physically and not date me...

Same problem. I don't share what's wrong because then people look at me like I'm weak and a burden and they abandon me. I'm theone who helps because if I help them, maybe they will see that I'm a good person.

If she's INFJ, she'll want something personal that shows you were thhinking of her. If anyone gave me red roses, I'd puke - they are just so generic! If she's a vegetarian, likes animals and is outdoorsy, you could get her something you could do together - like a hot air balloon ride or a funky...

Now that I'm older and have more control over who I see in my environment, if someone really oversteps the mark, I just let them have it. I make sure that I point their behaviour out to them as I'm yelling though so they know that they have contibuted to my outburst and I'm not a psycho. I...