Do you guys ever feel that it is particularly difficult for INFJs to connect with other people in the romantic sense?
Maybe it's just me but because I have a lot of different interests and I'm kind to even strangers (the confidant parts are strong, I guess) I tend to get friend zoned a lot. People say I'm very attractive (I get told I look like the late Natalie Wood a lot) and they enjoy my company but they do not feel the spark necessary for a relationship or to even see me in a romantic light. Is it part of being reliable and well-mannered that plunges INFJs into the friend zone.
Lately, I feel that because of the dumbed down, porn culture environment the world has become, that people are viewing INFJs (who usually have a lot of depth) as downers or unfun because we're not exhibitionists. I feel that I'd have to become superficial, coquettish and vapid in order to spark a man's romantic interest in me. The more time I spend living alone and pursuing my own hobbies and building a world for myself as a single person, the harder it gets to connect with other people.
I dunno - maybe I'm just losing my mind. I was always bullied for being quiet like many INFJs are and people assume I'm a miserable bitch when i'm just thinking a lot and not noticing the expression on my face (we've had this discussion in other threads). I'm just really feeling the fact that we only make up 1.5% of the population more and more these days.
Can't connect with new people very well because they want instant knowledge of everything I'm about - instant gratification - and unless I put on a show, they're not going to hang around for me to warm up to them like I need to.
Anyone else have an observation?
Maybe it's just me but because I have a lot of different interests and I'm kind to even strangers (the confidant parts are strong, I guess) I tend to get friend zoned a lot. People say I'm very attractive (I get told I look like the late Natalie Wood a lot) and they enjoy my company but they do not feel the spark necessary for a relationship or to even see me in a romantic light. Is it part of being reliable and well-mannered that plunges INFJs into the friend zone.
Lately, I feel that because of the dumbed down, porn culture environment the world has become, that people are viewing INFJs (who usually have a lot of depth) as downers or unfun because we're not exhibitionists. I feel that I'd have to become superficial, coquettish and vapid in order to spark a man's romantic interest in me. The more time I spend living alone and pursuing my own hobbies and building a world for myself as a single person, the harder it gets to connect with other people.
I dunno - maybe I'm just losing my mind. I was always bullied for being quiet like many INFJs are and people assume I'm a miserable bitch when i'm just thinking a lot and not noticing the expression on my face (we've had this discussion in other threads). I'm just really feeling the fact that we only make up 1.5% of the population more and more these days.
Can't connect with new people very well because they want instant knowledge of everything I'm about - instant gratification - and unless I put on a show, they're not going to hang around for me to warm up to them like I need to.
Anyone else have an observation?