Yes well, the word you used was scary, so I stuck with it. I would say you are probably intense. I don't doubt you are a great guy but you got to admit that you can be scary/intense. I certainly don't get the shy, retiring feel from you that some male INFJs have. I will also admit I wouldn't have pegged you for "calming" . I picture you as an "on-the-go" kind of guy.