- Sep 5, 2009
Would you rather give or receive? When and why?
Hahaha, I wish I didn't feel guilty getting without giving. Then I might just take and take then and thats no good.
Normally I just give in little amounts at a constant rate, so it sort of slips by people's guilt-o-meters. Or I slip and make it impossible or very difficult for people to give me something back, and I never bring it up again.
I'd love to say that I prefer giving, and that's that, but, honestly, if all I ever did was give, I'd probably become pretty resentful. It's just that if no one is giving you anything in return, you get the idea that you're being used or that you're simply underappreciated. Or I do, at least. Why would people just continuously take from you? So I'm not perfect after all.
Receiving does make me a little uncomfortable, but I think balance in sort of necessary.
Yus it is an art. I've gotten quite good at being gracious and grateful without being untruthful. I always feel a twinge of "I don't deserve this" but I am working on that too. I always make sure the giver gets their reward in <3 though ^^.Giving is easier for me than receiving - however, there is almost an art to receiving graciously and gratefully (in a way that makes the giver feel good) that I would like to master.