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Pure self interest, when I see someone with a great need it almost brings me to tears, I don't like feeling like that. Meh at least i'm honest. The person has to seem to need help though, I wont help someone who wont help themself.
There is a guy who I keep seeing popping up in front of a number of stores around town with a sign that says homeless, will work for food... which sets off my bullshit meter.
I didnt help him because he looks like hes trying to be homeless, he grew a beard out, but he has decent clothing, how does he get from store to store all day?
There was another "homeless" person I saw walking around for a bit, a woman with a shopping cart and she went up and down the main drag in my town collecting cans, any time of day I could see her, unlike this guy who only shows up at certain stores with a sign at certain hours... Him I get a creeper feel about, the woman every time I saw her I gave her 5 bucks and a few times 20 bucks, no thank yous, no nothing, just hey, here is some money, get some food.
I do feel kind of shitty though not giving to the other guy even if he is a pan handler, in fact I will probably hand him some dough next time i see him because I cant verify either way. Better to err on the side of caution. I want to ask him what kind of skills he has too, because I may or may not know someone who could use a guy if he is willing to work.
But usually I would say I offer help on a need basis, if there is something I can do and they need it, I will give it, I pull people out of snow ditches all winter long for example when I see them slide off the road.
There is a guy who I keep seeing popping up in front of a number of stores around town with a sign that says homeless, will work for food... which sets off my bullshit meter.
I didnt help him because he looks like hes trying to be homeless, he grew a beard out, but he has decent clothing, how does he get from store to store all day?
There was another "homeless" person I saw walking around for a bit, a woman with a shopping cart and she went up and down the main drag in my town collecting cans, any time of day I could see her, unlike this guy who only shows up at certain stores with a sign at certain hours... Him I get a creeper feel about, the woman every time I saw her I gave her 5 bucks and a few times 20 bucks, no thank yous, no nothing, just hey, here is some money, get some food.
I do feel kind of shitty though not giving to the other guy even if he is a pan handler, in fact I will probably hand him some dough next time i see him because I cant verify either way. Better to err on the side of caution. I want to ask him what kind of skills he has too, because I may or may not know someone who could use a guy if he is willing to work.
But usually I would say I offer help on a need basis, if there is something I can do and they need it, I will give it, I pull people out of snow ditches all winter long for example when I see them slide off the road.
