Going off of the "What kind of men do INFJ women like" thread that's somewhat popular right now, I thought this would do as well.
Personally, my partners have to be very intelligent. And they have to really care, or be naturally pretty empathetic. Without these things, I'll just feel alone and that won't do because I need relation in a relationship. Ability or willingness to be emotionally vulnerable is required to some degree. I don't want to share my 5th, 4th, 3rd 2nd or 1st story with someone, but the secret underground headquarters where all of the mushiest, most genuine and unfiltered me hangs out, getting bored (to downplay it) of being alaone with itself. . But that's not going to go off very well without the same being offered back.
I really like being able to share interests and do things we're both passionate about together, even though that is most typically internet junkie / recluse stuff like dingling about on the net, watching movies, docus and shows or reading together. I am also so hugely appreciative of being taught, especially things about myself, but anything really. And I really appreciate someone having hte patience to put up with me, particularly in the complications or oddities I perpetuate by being a super sensitive person, one way or another.
And you really have to know me, and be getting it right. It won't do to find that after a certain time and intimacy, you've somehow grossly missed the most important parts of me, which, of course, to me are obvious and what constitute my identity.
Most of my girlfriends have been INFPs but I've had real interests in a few INTPs and ENTP, and once an ENFP. I really want to find another INFJ like me to get on with but.. I don't know, even while networking heavily around INFJ communities on the net, I'm just not seeing it. And they aren't really seeing it in me either, as far as I've been made to know. And it's a shame because I still think it could be the best dynamic for me! And S types are a firm no.
What about all of the other INFJ men?
Personally, my partners have to be very intelligent. And they have to really care, or be naturally pretty empathetic. Without these things, I'll just feel alone and that won't do because I need relation in a relationship. Ability or willingness to be emotionally vulnerable is required to some degree. I don't want to share my 5th, 4th, 3rd 2nd or 1st story with someone, but the secret underground headquarters where all of the mushiest, most genuine and unfiltered me hangs out, getting bored (to downplay it) of being alaone with itself. . But that's not going to go off very well without the same being offered back.
I really like being able to share interests and do things we're both passionate about together, even though that is most typically internet junkie / recluse stuff like dingling about on the net, watching movies, docus and shows or reading together. I am also so hugely appreciative of being taught, especially things about myself, but anything really. And I really appreciate someone having hte patience to put up with me, particularly in the complications or oddities I perpetuate by being a super sensitive person, one way or another.
And you really have to know me, and be getting it right. It won't do to find that after a certain time and intimacy, you've somehow grossly missed the most important parts of me, which, of course, to me are obvious and what constitute my identity.
Most of my girlfriends have been INFPs but I've had real interests in a few INTPs and ENTP, and once an ENFP. I really want to find another INFJ like me to get on with but.. I don't know, even while networking heavily around INFJ communities on the net, I'm just not seeing it. And they aren't really seeing it in me either, as far as I've been made to know. And it's a shame because I still think it could be the best dynamic for me! And S types are a firm no.
What about all of the other INFJ men?
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